alkafi-4528Vol. 3, p. 193
الرَّجُلُ يَنْزِلُ فِي قَبْرِ وَالِدِهِ وَ لَا يَنْزِلُ الْوَالِدُ فِي قَبْرِ وَلَدِهِ.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that a man may enter the grave of his father, but a father should not enter the grave of his sons.”
People Who Should and Those Who Should Not Enter a Grave
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Causes of Death and that Believing People May Die by any Manner of Dying10Difficulty in Dying (If Dying Becomes Difficult and the Agony of Death Intense)5Facing the Dying Person Toward Qiblah3A Believing Person Is Not Caused to Die Against His Will2Things that Believers and Unbelievers See in Dying Conditions16Taking out of the Souls of Believing and Unbelievers3Burial Should Take Place Immediately2Rare Ahadith1Women during Hayd Nurse a Patient (The following chapters are about rules of washing a dead body for burial, shrouding and other matters of burial, and are best explained in the form of fatwa. Consult current fatwa about them.)1Washing a Dead Body6Hunut (Rubbing Camphor) on a Dead Body and Shrouding16The Reward for a Person Suffering from Illness10
alkafi-4529Vol. 3, p. 193
يُكْرَهُ لِلرَّجُلِ أَنْ يَنْزِلَ فِي قَبْرِ وَلَدِهِ.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that it is undesirable for a man to enter the grave of his sons.”
alkafi-4530Vol. 3, p. 193
لَمَّا مَاتَ إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ أَتَى أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع الْقَبْرَ فَأَرْخَى نَفْسَهُ[2] فَقَعَدَ ثُمَّ قَالَ رَحِمَكَ اللَّهُ وَ صَلَّى عَلَيْكَ وَ لَمْ يَنْزِلْ فِي قَبْرِهِ وَ قَالَ هَكَذَا فَعَلَ النَّبِيُّ ص بِإِبْرَاهِيمَ ع.
“When Isma’il, son of abu ‘Abd Allah, passed away, abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), went to the grave site, allowed his body to reach the ground, and said, ‘I pray to Allah to grant you mercy and favors.’ He did not enter the grave; and he said, ‘This is how the Holy Prophet did when Ibrahim died.’”
alkafi-4531Vol. 3, p. 193
ذَاكَ إِلَى الْوَلِيِّ إِنْ شَاءَ أَدْخَلَ وَتْراً وَ إِنْ شَاءَ شَفْعاً.
“I asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), ‘How many should enter a grave?’ He replied, ‘It is up to the guardian of the deceased. He may ask an odd or even number of people.’”
alkafi-4532Vol. 3, p. 193-194
قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ص مَضَتِ السُّنَّةُ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص أَنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ لَا يَدْخُلُ قَبْرَهَا إِلَّا مَنْ كَانَ يَرَاهَا فِي حَيَاتِهَا.
“Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), has said, ‘It is of the Sunnah (tradition) of the Messenger of Allah that no one should enter the grave of a woman except those who could see her in her lifetime.’”
alkafi-4533Vol. 3, p. 194
الزَّوْجُ أَحَقُّ بِامْرَأَتِهِ حَتَّى يَضَعَهَا فِي قَبْرِهَا.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that a husband is more rightful to place his wife in the grave.”
alkafi-4534Vol. 3, p. 194
كُنْتُ مَعَ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع حِينَ مَاتَ إِسْمَاعِيلُ ابْنُهُ ع فَأُنْزِلَ فِي قَبْرِهِ ثُمَّ رَمَى بِنَفْسِهِ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ مِمَّا يَلِي الْقِبْلَةَ ثُمَّ قَالَ هَكَذَا صَنَعَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص بِإِبْرَاهِيمَ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّ الرَّجُلَ يَنْزِلُ فِي قَبْرِ وَالِدِهِ وَ لَا يَنْزِلُ فِي قَبْرِ وَلَدِهِ.
“I was with abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), when Isma’il, his son passed away. The dead body was brought down in the grave. Thereafter he (the Imam) allowed his body to reach the ground on the side of the grave facing the direction of Qiblah. Then he said, ‘This is how the Messenger of Allah did on the death of Ibrahim.’ He the
alkafi-4535Vol. 3, p. 194
قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع الرَّجُلُ يَدْفِنُ ابْنَهُ قَالَ لَا يَدْفِنُهُ فِي التُّرَابِ قَالَ قُلْتُ فَالابْنُ يَدْفِنُ أَبَاهُ قَالَ نَعَمْ لَا بَأْسَ[1].
“Once I asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), ‘Can a man bury his son?’ He replied, ‘He does not bury him in the soil.’ I (the narrator) then asked, ‘Can a son bury his father?’ He replied, ‘Yes, there is no offense in it.’”