Egocentricity, Pride or Jealousy of Women

لَيْسَ الْغَيْرَةُ إِلَّا لِلرِّجَالِ وَ أَمَّا النِّسَاءُ فَإِنَّمَا ذَلِكَ مِنْهُنَّ حَسَدٌ وَ الْغَيْرَةُ لِلرِّجَالِ وَ لِذَلِكَ حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ إِلَّا زَوْجَهَا وَ أَحَلَّ لِلرِّجَالِ أَرْبَعاً وَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ أَكْرَمُ أَنْ يَبْتَلِيَهُنَّ بِالْغَيْرَةِ وَ يُحِلَّ لِلرِّجَالِ مَعَهَا ثَلَاثاً

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Pride is with men only and with women it is jealousy. Vanity is with men and for this reason Allah has prohibited women except to have one husband and for men He has made up to four (wives) lawful. Allah is most gracious. He does not place vanity and pride in them (women) then make th

إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ لَمْ يَجْعَلِ الْغَيْرَةَ لِلنِّسَاءِ وَ إِنَّمَا تَغَارُ الْمُنْكِرَاتُ مِنْهُنَّ فَأَمَّا الْمُؤْمِنَاتُ فَلَا إِنَّمَا جَعَلَ اللَّهُ الْغَيْرَةَ لِلرِّجَالِ لِأَنَّهُ أَحَلَّ لِلرَّجُلِ أَرْبَعاً وَ مَا مَلَكَتْ يَمِينُهُ وَ لَمْ يَجْعَلْ لِلْمَرْأَةِ إِلَّا زَوْجَهَا فَإِذَا أَرَادَتْ مَعَهُ غَيْرَهُ كَانَتْ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ زَانِيَةً. قَالَ وَ- رَوَاهُ الْقَاسِمُ بْنُ يَحْيَى عَنْ جَد

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, has not placed pride in women. Such feeling comes from detested ones among them; however, the believing ones of them are free of pride. Allah has placed pride in men; He has made lawful for men up to four and those whom they own (slaves). For women

بَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص قَاعِدٌ إِذْ جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ عُرْيَانَةٌ حَتَّى قَامَتْ بَيْنَ يَدَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنِّي فَجَرْتُ فَطَهِّرْنِي قَالَ وَ جَاءَ رَجُلٌ يَعْدُو فِي أَثَرِهَا وَ أَلْقَى عَلَيْهَا ثَوْباً فَقَالَ مَا هِيَ مِنْكَ فَقَالَ صَاحِبَتِي يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ خَلَوْتُ بِجَارِيَتِي فَصَنَعَتْ مَا تَرَى فَقَالَ ضُمَّهَا إِلَيْكَ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّ الْغَيْرَاءَ[1] لَا تُبْصِرُ أَعْلَى ا

“Once the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, was sitting that a nude woman came until she stood right in front of him and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, I have sinned, so cleanse me.’ He (the narrator) has said that after her a man came runni

قَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ ع‌ غَيْرَةُ النِّسَاءِ الْحَسَدُ وَ الْحَسَدُ هُوَ أَصْلُ الْكُفْرِ إِنَّ النِّسَاءَ إِذَا غِرْنَ غَضِبْنَ وَ إِذَا غَضِبْنَ كَفَرْنَ إِلَّا الْمُسْلِمَاتُ مِنْهُنَّ.

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said, ‘Pride of women is jealousy and jealousy is the root of disbelief. When women become jealous they become angry and when they become angry they disbelieve except the Muslim ones among them.’”

ذَكَرَ رَجُلٌ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع امْرَأَتَهُ فَأَحْسَنَ عَلَيْهَا الثَّنَاءَ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع أَغَرْتَهَا[2] قَالَ لَا قَالَ فَأَغِرْهَا فَأَغَارَهَا فَثَبَتَتْ فَقَالَ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع إِنِّي قَدْ أَغَرْتُهَا فَثَبَتَتْ فَقَالَ هِيَ كَمَا تَقُولُ.

“Once a man mentioned his wife before abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), and he praised her quite well. Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), asked, ‘Have you made her jealous?’ He replied, ‘No, I have not done so.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Make her feel jealous.’ He did so and he found the proof; then said to abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), that he has foun

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع الْمَرْأَةُ تَغَارُ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ تُؤْذِيهِ قَالَ ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْحُبِّ.

‘When a woman feels jealous against man, she causes disappointment for him.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘It is because of (her) love/”