The Desirability of Marriage for Women at Puberty and Fortifying them with Marriage

مِنْ سَعَادَةِ الْمَرْءِ أَنْ لَا تَطْمَثَ ابْنَتُهُ فِي بَيْتِهِ.

‘It is of the good fortune of a man whose daughter does not experience Hayd (menses) in his home.’”

إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ لَمْ يَتْرُكْ شَيْئاً مِمَّا يُحْتَاجُ إِلَيْهِ إِلَّا عَلَّمَهُ نَبِيَّهُ ص فَكَانَ مِنْ تَعْلِيمِهِ إِيَّاهُ أَنَّهُ صَعِدَ الْمِنْبَرَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ فَحَمِدَ اللَّهَ وَ أَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّ جَبْرَئِيلَ أَتَانِي عَنِ اللَّطِيفِ الْخَبِيرِ فَقَالَ إِنَّ الْأَبْكَارَ بِمَنْزِلَةِ الثَّمَرِ عَلَى الشَّجَرِ إِذَا أَدْرَكَ ثَمَرُهُ فَلَمْ يُجْتَنَى أَفْسَدَتْهُ

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, has taught to His Prophet, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, everything that is needed. Of such teachings is what he spoke one day from the pulpit. He (the Messenger of Allah) praised

إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَلَقَ حَوَّاءَ مِنْ آدَمَ فَهِمَّةُ النِّسَاءِ الرِّجَالُ فَحَصِّنُوهُنَّ فِي الْبُيُوتِ.

‘Allah created the creatures from Eve and Adam. The ambition of women is for men and their fortresses are the homes.’”

إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَلَقَ آدَمَ ع مِنَ الْمَاءِ وَ الطِّينِ فَهِمَّةُ ابْنِ آدَمَ فِي الْمَاءِ وَ الطِّينِ وَ خَلَقَ حَوَّاءَ مِنْ آدَمَ فَهِمَّةُ النِّسَاءِ فِي الرِّجَالِ فَحَصِّنُوهُنَّ فِي الْبُيُوتِ‌[1].

‘Allah created Adam from water and clay so the ambition of the sons of Adam is in water and clay. He created Eve from Adam so the ambition of women is for men and their fortress is in the houses.’”

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع فِي بَعْضِ كَلَامِهِ‌ إِنَّ السِّبَاعَ هَمُّهَا بُطُونُهَا وَ إِنَّ النِّسَاءَ هَمُّهُنَّ الرِّجَالُ.

The ambition of beasts is to fill their stomach, and the ambition of women is to find men.’”

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع‌ خُلِقَ الرِّجَالُ مِنَ الْأَرْضِ وَ إِنَّمَا هَمُّهُمْ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَ خُلِقَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ وَ إِنَّمَا هَمُّهَا فِي الرِّجَالِ احْبِسُوا نِسَاءَكُمْ يَا مَعَاشِرَ الرِّجَالِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin has said, ‘Men are created from earth, their ambition is in earth, and women are created from men and their ambition is to find men; so keep your women, O community of men.’”

قَالَ‌ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع فِي رِسَالَتِهِ إِلَى الْحَسَنِ ع إِيَّاكَ وَ مُشَاوَرَةَ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّ رَأْيَهُنَّ إِلَى الْأَفْنِ وَ عَزْمَهُنَّ إِلَى الْوَهْنِ‌[1] وَ اكْفُفْ عَلَيْهِنَّ مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِنَّ بِحِجَابِكَ إِيَاهُنَّ فَإِنَّ شِدَّةَ الْحِجَابِ خَيْرٌ لَكَ وَ لَهُنَّ مِنَ الِارْتِيَابِ وَ لَيْسَ خُرُوجُهُنَّ بِأَشَدَّ مِنْ دُخُولِ مَنْ لَا تَثِقُ بِهِ عَلَيْهِنَ‌[2] فَإِنِ اسْتَطَعْتَ أَنْ لَا يَع

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin has said, in his letter to al- Hassan (a.s.) : ‘You must never consult women because their opinion is weak in reason and their aim is not durable. They must keep their eye cast down by means of your barrier, because strict privacy is better for you and for them an

قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ كَانَ عَلِيُّ بْنُ الْحُسَيْنِ ع إِذَا أَتَاهُ خَتَنُهُ عَلَى ابْنَتِهِ أَوْ عَلَى أُخْتِهِ بَسَطَ لَهُ رِدَاءَهُ ثُمَّ أَجْلَسَهُ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ مَرْحَباً بِمَنْ كَفَى الْمَئُونَةَ وَ سَتَرَ الْعَوْرَةَ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that Ali ibn al-Husayn (a.s.), would spread his gown as furnishing when the husband of his daughter or sister would come to him (the Imam) and would say, ‘Welcome to the one who has taken good care of a need and the one who protected the privacy.’”