Self-Abnegation (Giving Preference to Others Over One’s Self)

سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع- عَنِ الرَّجُلِ لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ إِلَّا قُوتُ يَوْمِهِ أَ يَعْطِفُ مَنْ عِنْدَهُ قُوتُ يَوْمِهِ عَلَى مَنْ لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ شَيْ‌ءٌ وَ يَعْطِفُ مَنْ عِنْدَهُ قُوتُ شَهْرٍ عَلَى مَنْ دُونَهُ وَ السَّنَةُ عَلَى نَحْوِ ذَلِكَ أَمْ ذَلِكَ كُلُّهُ الْكَفَافُ الَّذِي لَا يُلَامُ عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَ هُوَ أَمْرٌ إِنَّ أَفْضَلَكُمْ فِيهِ أَحْرَصُكُمْ عَلَى الرَّغْبَةِ وَ الْأَثَرَةِ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ ف

“I once asked abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), this question: ‘There is one who has sustenance for only one day, or for only one month or one year. Should he give preference to another person who does not have sustenance even for one day, or one month or one year, or in all cases, is there no blame in not giving preference beca

قُلْتُ لَهُ أَوْصِنِي فَقَالَ آمُرُكَ بِتَقْوَى اللَّهِ ثُمَّ سَكَتَ فَشَكَوْتُ إِلَيْهِ قِلَّةَ ذَاتِ يَدِي وَ قُلْتُ وَ اللَّهِ لَقَدْ عَرِيتُ حَتَّى بَلَغَ مِنْ عُرْيَتِي أَنَّ أَبَا فُلَانٍ نَزَعَ ثَوْبَيْنِ كَانَا عَلَيْهِ وَ كَسَانِيهِمَا فَقَالَ صُمْ وَ تَصَدَّقْ قُلْتُ أَتَصَدَّقُ مِمَّا وَصَلَنِي بِهِ إِخْوَانِي وَ إِنْ كَانَ قَلِيلًا قَالَ تَصَدَّقْ بِمَا رَزَقَكَ اللَّهُ وَ لَوْ آثَرْتَ عَلَى نَفْسِكَ.

“I once said to abu al-Hassan (a.s.), ‘Please instruct me with good advice.’ He said, ‘I advise you to observe piety before Allah.’ He was silent for a while. I then complained to him about my poverty, saying, ‘By Allah, I do not have any clothes, and it is so much that abu so and so took off two pieces of his clothes

قُلْتُ لَهُ أَيُّ الصَّدَقَةِ أَفْضَلُ- قَالَ جُهْدُ الْمُقِلِ‌[1] أَ مَا سَمِعْتَ قَوْلَ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- وَ يُؤْثِرُونَ عَلى‌ أَنْفُسِهِمْ وَ لَوْ كانَ بِهِمْ خَصاصَةٌ[2] تَرَى هَاهُنَا فَضْلًا.

‘It is the kind of charity that one provides after doing his utmost. Have you heard the words of Allah, the Most Majestic, “They give preference to others over themselves even though they are in dire need?” (59:9) It is this kind of charity giving in which you can see excellence.’”