Chapter on Compatibility in Marriage

كَتَبْتُ إِلَى أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ ع فِي رَجُلٍ خَطَبَ إِلَيَّ فَكَتَبَ مَنْ خَطَبَ إِلَيْكُمْ فَرَضِيتُمْ دِينَهُ وَ أَمَانَتَهُ كَائِناً مَنْ كَانَ فَزَوِّجُوهُ وَ إِلَّا تَفْعَلُوا تَكُنْ فِتْنَةٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ‌ وَ فَسادٌ كَبِيرٌ.

I wrote to Abu Ja'far Imam Muhammad ibn Ali Al-Baqir (as) concerning a man who proposed marriage to someone. Imam (as) replied: "If someone proposes to you, and you are satisfied with his religion and trustworthiness, then marry him, whoever he may be. If you do not do so, there will be 'fitnah (discord) on the earth a

إِنَّما أَنَا بَشَرٌ مِثْلُكُمْ أَتَزَوَّجُ فِيكُمْ وَ أُزَوِّجُكُمْ إِلَّا فَاطِمَةَ فَإِنَّ تَزْوِيجَهَا نَزَلَ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ[3]

Hadith.4382 - The Messenger of Allah (swt) (peace be upon him and his family) said: "I am only a human being like you; I marry amongst you and I arrange marriages for you. Except for Sayyida Fatimah {s.a}, for her marriage was decreed from the heavens."

قَالَ ع‌ لَوْ لَا أَنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى خَلَقَ فَاطِمَةَ لِعَلِيٍّ مَا كَانَ لَهَا عَلَى وَجْهِ الْأَرْضِ كُفْوٌ آدَمُ فَمَنْ دُونَهُ‌[4].

Hadith.4383 - Imam (as) said: "Had Allah (swt), the Exalted, not created Sayyida Fatimah {s.a} for Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as), there would not have been any equal for her on the face of the earth, from Adam to those after him."

وَ نَظَرَ النَّبِيُّ ص إِلَى أَوْلَادِ عَلِيٍّ وَ جَعْفَرٍ ع فَقَالَ بَنَاتُنَا لِبَنِينَا وَ بَنُونَا لِبَنَاتِنَا[5].

Hadith.4384 - The Prophet (peace be upon him and his family) looked at the children of Imam Ali ibn Abi Talib (as) and Ja'far (as), peace be upon them, and said: "Our daughters are for our sons, and our sons are for our daughters."

الْمُؤْمِنُونَ بَعْضُهُمْ أَكْفَاءُ بَعْضٍ[6]

Hadith.4385 - Imam Jafar ibn Muhammad Al-Sadiq (as) said: " Believers are equals to one another."

قَالَ ع‌ الْكُفْؤُ أَنْ يَكُونَ عَفِيفاً وَ عِنْدَهُ يَسَارٌ[1].

Hadith.4386 - Imam (as) said: "A suitable match is one who is chaste and possesses financial means."