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The Book of Social Manners

204 narrations
alkafi-3692Vol. 2, p. 656

سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع عَنْ قَوْلِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- إِنَّ أَنْكَرَ الْأَصْواتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ[2] قَالَ الْعَطْسَةُ الْقَبِيحَةُ.

“Once I asked Abu ‘Abdillah (a.s.) about the words of Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most Holy, ‘The most undesirable voice is the voice of donkeys.’ (31:19) The Imam said, ‘It is a bad sneezing.’”

alkafi-3693Vol. 2, p. 657

مَنْ عَطَسَ ثُمَّ وَضَعَ يَدَهُ عَلَى قَصَبَةِ أَنْفِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ‌ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ رَبِّ الْعالَمِينَ* الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ حَمْداً كَثِيراً كَمَا هُوَ أَهْلُهُ وَ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ النَّبِيِّ وَ آلِهِ وَ سَلَّمَ خَرَجَ مِنْ مَنْخِرِهِ الْأَيْسَرِ طَائِرٌ أَصْغَرُ مِنَ الْجَرَادِ وَ أَكْبَرُ مِنَ الذُّبَابِ حَتَّى يَسِيرَ تَحْتَ الْعَرْشِ يَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ لَهُ إِلَى يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ.

“If one sneezes, places his hand over his nose and says, ‘All praise belongs to Allah, Lord of the worlds, (all praise belongs to Allah), a great deal of praise, as He deserves, Allah has granted al-Salat (favors) and peace upon Muhammad, His Holy Prophet, and the Ahl al-Bay (family of Muhammad), a small flying thing,

alkafi-3694Vol. 2, p. 657

كُنْتُ أُجَالِسُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع فَلَا وَ اللَّهِ مَا رَأَيْتُ مَجْلِساً أَنْبَلَ مِنْ مَجَالِسِهِ‌[1] قَالَ فَقَالَ لِي ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ مِنْ أَيْنَ تَخْرُجُ الْعَطْسَةُ فَقُلْتُ مِنَ الْأَنْفِ فَقَالَ لِي أَصَبْتَ الْخَطَأَ فَقُلْتُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ مِنْ أَيْنَ تَخْرُجُ فَقَالَ مِنْ جَمِيعِ الْبَدَنِ كَمَا أَنَّ النُّطْفَةَ تَخْرُجُ مِنْ جَمِيعِ الْبَدَنِ وَ مَخْرَجُهَا مِنَ الْإِحْلِيلِ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَ مَا رَأَي

“I would sit in the meeting place of Abu ‘Abdillah (a.s.) I swear by Allah that I had not seen any meeting place nobler than his meeting place. One day he asked me, ‘Where from does sneeze come?’ I said, ‘It comes out of the nose.’ He said, ‘You have got it wrong.’ I then said, ‘May Allah keep my soul in service for yo

alkafi-3700Vol. 2, p. 658

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ مَنْ عَرَفَ فَضْلَ كَبِيرٍ لِسِنِّهِ فَوَقَّرَهُ آمَنَهُ اللَّهُ مِنْ فَزَعِ يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ.

“The Messenger of Allah has said, ‘Whoever recognizes the excellence of an old person due to his age and treats him with dignity, Allah will grant him protection against the horror on the Day of Judgment.’”

alkafi-3701Vol. 2, p. 658

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ مَنْ وَقَّرَ ذَا شَيْبَةٍ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ آمَنَهُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِنْ فَزَعِ يَوْمِ الْقِيَامَةِ.

“The Messenger of Allah has said, ‘Whoever treats an old Muslim person with dignity, Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most Holy, will grant him protection against the horror of the Day of Judgment.’”

alkafi-3702Vol. 2, p. 658

ثَلَاثَةٌ لَا يَجْهَلُ حَقَّهُمْ إِلَّا مُنَافِقٌ مَعْرُوفٌ بِالنِّفَاقِ ذُو الشَّيْبَةِ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ وَ حَامِلُ الْقُرْآنِ وَ الْإِمَامُ الْعَادِلُ.

“There are three kinds of people whose rights are not ignored, except by a hypocrite, well-known in hypocrisy: of such people is an old person in Islam, the carrier of the Holy Quran and the Imam who possesses the noble merit of justice.”

alkafi-3703Vol. 2, p. 658

قَالَ لِي أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ مِنْ إِجْلَالِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ إِجْلَالُ الْمُؤْمِنِ ذِي الشَّيْبَةِ وَ مَنْ أَكْرَمَ مُؤْمِناً فَبِكَرَامَةِ اللَّهِ بَدَأَ[1] وَ مَنِ اسْتَخَفَّ بِمُؤْمِنٍ ذِي شَيْبَةٍ أَرْسَلَ اللَّهُ إِلَيْهِ مَنْ يَسْتَخِفُّ بِهِ قَبْلَ مَوْتِهِ.

“Once Abu ‘Abdillah (a.s.) said to me, ‘It is respecting Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most Holy, to respect an old believing person. Whoever honors an old believing person has begun (with) honoring Allah. Whoever disrespects an old believing person, Allah will send to him someone who will disrespect him before his dea

alkafi-3705Vol. 2, p. 659

دَخَلَ رَجُلَانِ عَلَى أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع فَأَلْقَى لِكُلِّ وَاحِدٍ مِنْهُمَا وِسَادَةً فَقَعَدَ عَلَيْهَا أَحَدُهُمَا وَ أَبَى الْآخَرُ فَقَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع اقْعُدْ عَلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ لَا يَأْبَى الْكَرَامَةَ إِلَّا حِمَارٌ ثُمَّ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص إِذَا أَتَاكُمْ كَرِيمُ قَوْمٍ فَأَكْرِمُوهُ.

“Once two men came to Amir al-Mu’minin, Ali ibn abu Talib (a.s.) he prepared one seat for each one. One of them sat on the seat but the other refused. Amir al-Mu’minin, Ali ibn abu Talib (a.s.) said to him, ‘Take your seat; no one refuses to appreciate being honored except a donkey.’ The Imam then said, ‘The Messenger

alkafi-3707Vol. 2, p. 659

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع‌ لَمَّا قَدِمَ عَدِيُّ بْنُ حَاتِمٍ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ص أَدْخَلَهُ النَّبِيُّ ص بَيْتَهُ وَ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِي الْبَيْتِ غَيْرُ خَصَفَةٍ[1] وَ وِسَادَةٍ مِنْ أَدَمٍ فَطَرَحَهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص- لِعَدِيِّ بْنِ حَاتِمٍ.

“Amir al-Mu’minin, Ali ibn abu Talib (a.s.) has said, ‘When ‘Adi ibn Hatim came to the Holy Prophet, he brought him (‘Adi) to his house. In his house there was nothing to use as a seat except a sack (storage for dates) and a pillow made of animal skin. With such items the Messenger of Allah prepared a seat for ‘Adi ibn

alkafi-3708Vol. 2, p. 659

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ إِنَّ مِنْ حَقِّ الدَّاخِلِ عَلَى أَهْلِ الْبَيْتِ أَنْ يَمْشُوا مَعَهُ هُنَيْئَةً إِذَا دَخَلَ وَ إِذَا خَرَجَ وَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص إِذَا دَخَلَ أَحَدُكُمْ عَلَى أَخِيهِ الْمُسْلِمِ فِي بَيْتِهِ فَهُوَ أَمِيرٌ عَلَيْهِ حَتَّى يَخْرُجَ‌[2].

“The Messenger of Allah has said, ‘It is of the rights of a newcomer on the people of the house to gently escort him when entering and leaving.’ The Imam said that the Messenger of Allah has said, ‘When anyone enters the house of his brother (in belief), the host then is his commander until he leaves.’”

alkafi-3711Vol. 2, p. 660

الْمَجَالِسُ بِالْأَمَانَةِ وَ لَيْسَ لِأَحَدٍ أَنْ يُحَدِّثَ بِحَدِيثٍ يَكْتُمُهُ صَاحِبُهُ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ إِلَّا أَنْ يَكُونَ ثِقَةً أَوْ ذِكْراً لَهُ بِخَيْرٍ.

“The meetings are trusts. No one must make public anything that one’s companion does not want to be made public unless it is with his permission, or he is trusted and does it only for his good.”

alkafi-3715Vol. 2, p. 661

كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ص يَجْلِسُ ثَلَاثاً الْقُرْفُصَا[1] وَ هُوَ أَنْ يُقِيمَ سَاقَيْهِ وَ يَسْتَقْبِلَهُمَا بِيَدَيْهِ وَ يَشُدَّ يَدَهُ فِي ذِرَاعِهِ وَ كَانَ يَجْثُو عَلَى رُكْبَتَيْهِ وَ كَانَ يَثْنِي رِجْلًا وَاحِدَةً وَ يَبْسُطُ عَلَيْهَا الْأُخْرَى وَ لَمْ يُرَ ص مُتَرَبِّعاً قَطُّ.

“The Holy Prophet would sit with three postures: al-Qurfusa . In this posture both knees are up and one holds them with both arms and hands around them, folding both legs backwards so one can sit on them and one leg folded and the other spread over the folded one. He was never seen sitting with legs squared.”

alkafi-3716Vol. 2, p. 661

رَأَيْتُ عَلِيَّ بْنَ الْحُسَيْنِ ع قَاعِداً وَاضِعاً إِحْدَى رِجْلَيْهِ عَلَى فَخِذِهِ فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ النَّاسَ يَكْرَهُونَ هَذِهِ الْجِلْسَةَ وَ يَقُولُونَ إِنَّهَا جِلْسَةُ الرَّبِّ- فَقَالَ إِنِّي إِنَّمَا جَلَسْتُ هَذِهِ الْجِلْسَةَ لِلْمَلَالَةِ وَ الرَّبُّ لَا يَمَلُّ وَ لا تَأْخُذُهُ سِنَةٌ وَ لا نَوْمٌ‌.

“I saw Ali ibn al-Husayn (a.s.) when sitting place one foot over his thigh. I said, ‘People dislike this sitting posture and say, “It is the sitting posture of the Lord.’” The Imam said, ‘I sit this way to relieve myself of tiredness. The Lord does not tire and slumber or sleep cannot overcome Him.’”

alkafi-3717Vol. 2, p. 661

مَنْ رَضِيَ بِدُونِ التَّشَرُّفِ مِنَ الْمَجْلِسِ لَمْ يَزَلِ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ وَ مَلَائِكَتُهُ يُصَلُّونَ عَلَيْهِ حَتَّى يَقُومَ.

“Whoever feels content with a seat without formalities in a gathering, Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most Holy, and His angels continue doing and asking favors for him until he leaves the gathering.”

alkafi-3719Vol. 2, p. 661

جَلَسَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع مُتَوَرِّكاً رِجْلُهُ الْيُمْنَى عَلَى فَخِذِهِ الْيُسْرَى فَقَالَ لَهُ رَجُلٌ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ هَذِهِ جِلْسَةٌ مَكْرُوهَةٌ فَقَالَ لَا إِنَّمَا هُوَ شَيْ‌ءٌ قَالَتْهُ الْيَهُودُ لَمَّا أَنْ فَرَغَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِنْ خَلْقِ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَ الْأَرْضِ وَ اسْتَوَى عَلَى الْعَرْشِ جَلَسَ هَذِهِ الْجِلْسَةَ لِيَسْتَرِيحَ فَأَنْزَلَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- اللَّهُ لا إِلهَ إِلَّا هُو

“Once Abu ‘Abdillah (a.s.) was sitting with his right foot on his left thigh. A man said, ‘May Allah keep my soul in service for your cause, this sitting posture is not desirable.’ The Imam said, ‘It is not so. That is a thing the Jews say that when Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most Holy, finished creating the heavens

alkafi-3721Vol. 2, p. 662

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع‌ سُوقُ الْمُسْلِمِينَ كَمَسْجِدِهِمْ فَمَنْ سَبَقَ إِلَى مَكَانٍ فَهُوَ أَحَقُّ بِهِ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ قَالَ وَ كَانَ لَا يَأْخُذُ عَلَى بُيُوتِ السُّوقِ كِرَاءً.

“Amir al-Mu’minin, Ali ibn abu Talib (a.s.) would say, ‘The market place of the Muslims is like their Mosque, the one who first takes a place stays there until night. ’ The narrator has said that he (the Imam) would not charge any rent for the shops.’”

alkafi-3722Vol. 2, p. 662

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ يَنْبَغِي لِلْجُلَسَاءِ فِي الصَّيْفِ أَنْ يَكُونَ بَيْنَ كُلِّ اثْنَيْنِ مِقْدَارُ عَظْمِ الذِّرَاعِ لِئَلَّا يَشُقَّ بَعْضُهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ فِي الْحَرِّ.

“The Messenger of Allah has said, ‘In a gathering during summer the distance between two people should be an elbow’s length (about eighteen inches) so that no difficulty is caused to any of them.’”

alkafi-3724Vol. 2, p. 662

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ الِاتِّكَاءُ فِي الْمَسْجِدِ رَهْبَانِيَّةُ الْعَرَبِ إِنَّ الْمُؤْمِنَ مَجْلِسُهُ مَسْجِدُهُ وَ صَوْمَعَتُهُ بَيْتُهُ.

“The Messenger of Allah has said, ‘Sitting in the Mosque in a leaning posture is the monkish practice of the Arabs. The gathering place of believing people is the Mosque, and their monastery is their home.’”

alkafi-3727Vol. 2, p. 663

سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع- عَنِ الرَّجُلِ يَحْتَبِي بِثَوْبٍ وَاحِدٍ فَقَالَ إِنْ كَانَ يُغَطِّي عَوْرَتَهُ فَلَا بَأْسَ.

“Once I asked Abu ‘Abdillah (a.s.) about a man who uses one piece of cloth for al- ‘Ihtiba’. The Imam said, ‘If it covers his private parts then it is not an offense.’”

alkafi-3729Vol. 2, p. 663

سَأَلْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ ع فَقُلْتُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ الرَّجُلُ يَكُونُ مَعَ الْقَوْمِ فَيَجْرِي بَيْنَهُمْ كَلَامٌ يَمْزَحُونَ وَ يَضْحَكُونَ فَقَالَ لَا بَأْسَ مَا لَمْ يَكُنْ فَظَنَنْتُ أَنَّهُ عَنَى الْفُحْشَ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ص كَانَ يَأْتِيهِ الْأَعْرَابِيُّ فَيُهْدِي لَهُ الْهَدِيَّةَ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ مَكَانَهُ أَعْطِنَا ثَمَنَ هَدِيَّتِنَا فَيَضْحَكُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص وَ كَانَ إِذَا اغْتَمَّ يَقُو

“Once I asked abu al-Hassan (a.s.) ‘May Allah keep my soul in service for your cause, can a man be with a people who speak and laugh at funny stories?’ The Imam said, ‘It is not an offense if there is not that.’ I (the narrator) then thought ‘ that ’ was his signal to indecent acts. The Imam then said, ‘Arabs would com

alkafi-3731Vol. 2, p. 663

قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ كَيْفَ مُدَاعَبَةُ بَعْضِكُمْ بَعْضاً قُلْتُ قَلِيلٌ قَالَ فَلَا تَفْعَلُوا[3] فَإِنَّ الْمُدَاعَبَةَ مِنْ حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ وَ إِنَّكَ لَتُدْخِلُ بِهَا السُّرُورَ عَلَى أَخِيكَ وَ لَقَدْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص يُدَاعِبُ الرَّجُلَ يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَسُرَّهُ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.) has said, ‘How is your telling funny stories for each other?’ I said, ‘It is very little.’ The Imam said, ‘Do not do so. Telling funny stories is of delightful moral discipline. You can bring joy to your brother (in belief). The Messenger of Allah would tell funny stories to bring cheerfulness fe

alkafi-3732Vol. 2, p. 663

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا جَعْفَرٍ ع يَقُولُ‌ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ يُحِبُّ الْمُدَاعِبَ فِي الْجَمَاعَةِ بِلَا رَفَثٍ‌[4].

4. Salih ibn ‘Aqabah has narrated from ‘Abd Allah ibn Muhammad al-Ju’fi who has said the following: “I heard abu Ja’far (a.s.) saying, ‘Allah, the Most Majestic, the Most Holy, loves a funny storyteller in a group free of abusive matters. ’”

alkafi-3735Vol. 2, p. 664

إِنَّ مِنَ الْجَهْلِ الضَّحِكَ مِنْ غَيْرِ عَجَبٍ قَالَ وَ كَانَ يَقُولُ لَا تُبْدِيَنَّ عَنْ وَاضِحَةٍ[1] وَ قَدْ عَمِلْتَ الْأَعْمَالَ الْفَاضِحَةَ وَ لَا يَأْمَنِ الْبَيَاتَ مَنْ عَمِلَ السَّيِّئَاتِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.) has said, ‘It is ignorance to laugh without astonishment.’ The narrator has said that the Imam would say, ‘In laughing do not allow your teeth to become visible, when you have committed disgraceful deeds. One who has committed evil deeds should not feel secure about what kinds of misfortune the n

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