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The Book of Marriage

990 narrations
alkafi-10134Vol. 5, p. 507-508

رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص لَوْ أَمَرْتُ أَحَداً أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا.

“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that once a people came to the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, and said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, we saw a people who prostrate for each other.’ The Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muham

alkafi-10135Vol. 5, p. 508

جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ قَالَ أَكْثَرُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ‌[1] فَقَالَتْ فَخَبِّرْنِي عَنْ شَيْ‌ءٍ مِنْهُ فَقَالَ لَيْسَ لَهَا أَنْ تَصُومَ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ يَعْنِي تَطَوُّعاً وَ لَا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ وَ عَلَيْهَا أَنْ تَطَيَّبَ بِأَطْيَبِ طِيبِهَا وَ تَلْبَسَ أَحْسَنَ ثِيَابِهَا وَ تَزَيَّنَ بِأَحْسَنِ زِينَتِهَا و

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that once a woman came to the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, and asked, ‘O Messenger of Allah, what is the right of husband on the wife?’ He (the Messenger of Allah) said, ‘Should I tell you a great deal

alkafi-10136Vol. 5, p. 508

أَتَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص فَقَالَتْ مَا حَقُّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ فَقَالَ أَنْ تُجِيبَهُ إِلَى حَاجَتِهِ وَ إِنْ كَانَتْ عَلَى قَتَبٍ وَ لَا تُعْطِيَ شَيْئاً إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ فَإِنْ فَعَلَتْ فَعَلَيْهَا الْوِزْرُ وَ لَهُ الْأَجْرُ وَ لَا تَبِيتَ لَيْلَةً وَ هُوَ عَلَيْهَا سَاخِطٌ قَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ وَ إِنْ كَانَ ظَالِماً قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَتْ وَ الَّذِي بَعَثَكَ بِالْحَقِّ لَا تَزَوَّج

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that once a woman came to the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, and asked, ‘What is the right of husband on the wife?’ He (the Messenger of Allah) said, ‘Of his rights is to make herself available for him e

alkafi-10137Vol. 5, p. 508

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص لِلنِّسَاءِ لَا تُطَوِّلْنَ صَلَاتَكُنَّ لِتَمْنَعْنَ أَزْوَاجَكُنَّ.

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said to women, ‘You must not prolong your Salat (prayer) to prevent your husbands.’”

alkafi-10138Vol. 5, p. 508-509

إِنَّ امْرَأَةً أَتَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ص لِبَعْضِ الْحَاجَةِ فَقَالَ لَهَا لَعَلَّكِ مِنَ الْمُسَوِّفَاتِ‌ قَالَتْ وَ مَا الْمُسَوِّفَاتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ الْمَرْأَةُ الَّتِي يَدْعُوهَا زَوْجُهَا لِبَعْضِ الْحَاجَةِ فَلَا تَزَالُ تُسَوِّفُهُ حَتَّى يَنْعُسَ زَوْجُهَا وَ يَنَامَ فَتِلْكَ لَا تَزَالُ الْمَلَائِكَةُ تَلْعَنُهَا حَتَّى يَسْتَيْقِظَ زَوْجُهَا.

"Once a woman came to the Messenger of Allah (sw) for a certain need and he said to her, ‘Perhaps you are of the Musawwifat .’ She asked, ‘And what is the Musawwifat, O Messenger of Allah?’ He replied, ‘It is a woman whose husband calls her for something that he needs but she procrastinates until her husband begins to

alkafi-10139Vol. 5, p. 509

نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص النِّسَاءَ أَنْ يَتَبَتَّلْنَ‌[1] وَ يُعَطِّلْنَ أَنْفُسَهُنَّ مِنَ الْأَزْوَاجِ.

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, prohibited women from ignoring themselves due to laziness and turning themselves of no benefit for their husbands.’”

alkafi-10140Vol. 5, p. 509

لَا يَنْبَغِي لِلْمَرْأَةِ أَنْ تُعَطِّلَ نَفْسَهَا وَ لَوْ تُعَلِّقُ فِي عُنُقِهَا قِلَادَةً وَ لَا يَنْبَغِي أَنْ تَدَعَ يَدَهَا مِنَ الْخِضَابِ وَ لَوْ تَمْسَحُهَا مَسْحاً بِالْحِنَّاءِ وَ إِنْ كَانَتْ مُسِنَّةً.

‘It is not proper for women to neglect themselves even from hanging a necklace from their necks. It is not proper for women to leave their hands without dye even if they are old.’”

alkafi-10141Vol. 5, p. 509

دَخَلَتِ امْرَأَةٌ عَلَى أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع فَقَالَتْ أَصْلَحَكَ اللَّهُ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُتَبَتِّلَةٌ فَقَالَ وَ مَا التَّبَتُّلُ عِنْدَكِ قَالَتْ لَا أَتَزَوَّجُ قَالَ وَ لِمَ قَالَتْ أَلْتَمِسُ بِذَلِكَ الْفَضْلَ فَقَالَ انْصَرِفِي فَلَوْ كَانَ ذَلِكِ فَضْلًا لَكَانَتْ فَاطِمَةُ ع أَحَقَّ بِهِ مِنْكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ يَسْبِقُهَا إِلَى الْفَضْلِ.

I am a celibate woman.’ He (the Imam) asked, ‘What does that mean to you?’ She replied, ‘I do not marry.’ He (the Imam) asked, ‘Why do you not marry?’ She replied, ‘I seek thereby excellence.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘You must change your mind. Had that been anything of excellence, Fatimah, ‘Alayha al-Salam, would have bee

alkafi-10143Vol. 5, p. 510

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ إِنَّمَا الْمَرْأَةُ لُعْبَةٌ مَنِ اتَّخَذَهَا فَلَا يُضَيِّعْهَا.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘A woman is like a doll which one chooses but does not waste or destroy. 5 ”

alkafi-10144Vol. 5, p. 510

فِي رِسَالَةِ أَمِيرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع إِلَى الْحَسَنِ ع لَا تُمَلِّكِ الْمَرْأَةَ مِنَ الْأَمْرِ مَا يُجَاوِزُ نَفْسَهَا[1] فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ أَنْعَمُ لِحَالِهَا وَ أَرْخَى لِبَالِهَا وَ أَدْوَمُ لِجَمَالِهَا فَإِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ رَيْحَانَةٌ وَ لَيْسَتْ بِقَهْرَمَانَةٍ وَ لَا تَعْدُ بِكَرَامَتِهَا نَفْسَهَا[2] وَ اغْضُضْ بَصَرَهَا بِسِتْرِكَ وَ اكْفُفْهَا بِحِجَابِكَ وَ لَا تُطْمِعْهَا أَنْ تَشْفَعَ لِغَيْرِهَا فَيَمِيل

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that it is in the letter of ’Amir al-Mu 5 minin to al-Hassan (a.s.), which says, ‘You must not give control of things beyond her own affairs to a woman; it is easier for her condition, comfortable for her mind and helps her beauty to last longer, because women are like sweet basil and n

alkafi-10145Vol. 5, p. 510-511

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع مَا حَقُّ الْمَرْأَةِ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا الَّذِي إِذَا فَعَلَهُ كَانَ مُحْسِناً قَالَ يُشْبِعُهَا وَ يَكْسُوهَا وَ إِنْ جَهِلَتْ غَفَرَ لَهَا وَ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع كَانَتِ امْرَأَةٌ عِنْدَ أَبِي ع تُؤْذِيهِ فَيَغْفِرُ لَهَا.

“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about the right of woman on her husband for which when he yields is a man of good deeds. He (the Imam) said, ‘He must provide her sufficient food, clothes and forgive her if she acted ignorantly.’ Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘My father had a woman who would disappoint him (the

alkafi-10146Vol. 5, p. 511

جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ص فَسَأَلَتْهُ عَنْ حَقِّ الزَّوْجِ عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ فَخَبَّرَهَا ثُمَّ قَالَتْ فَمَا حَقُّهَا عَلَيْهِ قَالَ يَكْسُوهَا مِنَ الْعُرْيِ وَ يُطْعِمُهَا مِنَ الْجُوعِ وَ إِنْ أَذْنَبَتْ غَفَرَ لَهَا فَقَالَتْ فَلَيْسَ لَهَا عَلَيْهِ شَيْ‌ءٌ غَيْرُ هَذَا قَالَ لَا قَالَتْ لَا وَ اللَّهِ لَا تَزَوَّجْتُ أَبَداً ثُمَّ وَلَّتْ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ص ارْجِعِي فَرَجَعَتْ فَقَالَ إِنَّ اللَّه

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that once a woman came to the Holy Prophet, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, and asked about the rights of a husband on a woman. He (the Messenger of Allah) informed her and then she asked about her right on him and he (the M

alkafi-10148Vol. 5, p. 511

زَوَّجَنِي أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع جَارِيَةً كَانَتْ لِإِسْمَاعِيلَ ابْنِهِ فَقَالَ أَحْسِنْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْتُ وَ مَا الْإِحْسَانُ إِلَيْهَا فَقَالَ أَشْبِعْ بَطْنَهَا وَ اكْسُ جُثَّتَهَا وَ اغْفِرْ ذَنْبَهَا ثُمَّ قَالَ اذْهَبِي وَسَّطَكِ اللَّهُ مَا لَهُ‌[2].

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), gave in marriage to me a slave-girl who belonged to ‘Isma’il, his son and said, ‘Be good to her.’ I then asked, ‘What is the meaning of ‘be good to her’?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Provide her with sufficient food, clothes and forgive her sins against you.’ He (the Imam) then said to her, ‘You must g

alkafi-10149Vol. 5, p. 511-512

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع مَا حَقُّ الْمَرْأَةِ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا قَالَ يَسُدُّ جَوْعَتَهَا وَ يَسْتُرُ عَوْرَتَهَا وَ لَا يُقَبِّحُ لَهَا وَجْهاً- فَإِذَا فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ فَقَدْ وَ اللَّهِ أَدَّى حَقَّهَا قُلْتُ فَالدُّهْنُ قَالَ غِبّاً يَوْمٌ وَ يَوْمٌ لَا قُلْتُ فَاللَّحْمُ‌ قَالَ فِي كُلِّ ثَلَاثَةٍ فَيَكُونُ فِي الشَّهْرِ عَشْرَ مَرَّاتٍ لَا أَكْثَرَ مِنْ ذَلِكَ قُلْتُ فَالصِّبْغُ قَالَ وَ الصِّبْغُ فِي كُلِّ

“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about the rights of women on their husbands. He (the Imam) said, ‘He must provide for her sufficient food, sufficient clothes to maintain her dignity and must not make a repugnant face on her; and when he has followed these instructions he then by Allah has fulfilled her rights.’ I

alkafi-10150Vol. 5, p. 512

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ أَوْصَانِي جَبْرَئِيلُ ع بِالْمَرْأَةِ حَتَّى ظَنَنْتُ أَنَّهُ لَا يَنْبَغِي طَلَاقُهَا إِلَّا مِنْ فَاحِشَةٍ مُبَيِّنَةٍ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Jibril advised me about women (so much) that I began to think of divorce as an improper act unless it is because of openly proven indecency.’”

alkafi-10151Vol. 5, p. 512

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع قَوْلُهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَ‌ وَ مَنْ قُدِرَ عَلَيْهِ رِزْقُهُ فَلْيُنْفِقْ مِمَّا آتاهُ اللَّهُ‌[3] قَالَ إِذَا أَنْفَقَ عَلَيْهَا مَا يُقِيمُ ظَهْرَهَا مَعَ كِسْوَةٍ وَ إِلَّا فُرِّقَ بَيْنَهُمَا[4].

“This is concerning my question before abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about the words of Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, ‘. . . one who suffers from constraint in his sustenance must spend from whatever Allah has granted him.’ (65:7) He (the Imam) said, ‘He must provide her with basic necessities and clothes, otherwise, j

alkafi-10152Vol. 5, p. 512

ابْنُ أَبِي عُمَيْرٍ قُلْتُ لِجَمِيلٍ وَ الْمَرْأَةُ قَالَ قَدْ رُوِيَ عَنْ عَنْبَسَةَ- عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع قَالَ إِذَا كَسَاهَا مَا يُوَارِي عَوْرَتَهَا وَ يُطْعِمُهَا مَا يُقِيمُ صُلْبَهَا أَقَامَتْ مَعَهُ وَ إِلَّا طَلَّقَهَا.

“He (the Imam) (a.s.), has said, ‘A man is not compelled, but for providing the expenses of his parents and children.’ He (the narrator) has said that Ibn Abi ‘Umayr has said, ‘I asked Jamil about the woman and he said that ‘Anbasah has narrated from abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), who has said that if one provides clothes for

alkafi-10153Vol. 5, p. 513

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ إِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الْمَرْأَةِ مَثَلُ الضِّلْعِ الْمُعْوَجِّ إِنْ تَرَكْتَهُ انْتَفَعْتَ بِهِ وَ إِنْ أَقَمْتَهُ كَسَرْتَهُ وَ فِي حَدِيثٍ آخَرَ اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Women are like crooked ribs from which you can benefit by leaving it alone (the way it is); but on trying to straighten one only causes it to snap and b

alkafi-10154Vol. 5, p. 513

قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ إِنَّ إِبْرَاهِيمَ ع شَكَا إِلَى اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مَا يَلْقَى مِنْ سُوءِ خُلُقِ سَارَةَ فَأَوْحَى اللَّهُ تَعَالَى إِلَيْهِ إِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الْمَرْأَةِ مَثَلُ الضِّلْعِ الْمُعْوَجِ إِنْ أَقَمْتَهُ كَسَرْتَهُ وَ إِنْ تَرَكْتَهُ اسْتَمْتَعْتَ بِهِ اصْبِرْ عَلَيْهَا.

‘Ibrahim (a.s.) once complained before Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, because of the wicked moral behavior of Sarah and Allah most High, sent him revelation that said, ‘Women are like crooked ribs, on trying to straighten you only cause it to snap and break apart but you can benefit by leaving it alone (the way i

alkafi-10155Vol. 5, p. 513

إِنَّ رَجُلًا مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص خَرَجَ فِي بَعْضِ حَوَائِجِهِ فَعَهِدَ إِلَى امْرَأَتِهِ عَهْداً أَلَّا تَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا حَتَّى يَقْدَمَ قَالَ وَ إِنَّ أَبَاهَا مَرِضَ فَبَعَثَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ص فَقَالَتْ إِنَّ زَوْجِي خَرَجَ وَ عَهِدَ إِلَيَّ أَنْ لَا أَخْرُجَ مِنْ بَيْتِي حَتَّى يَقْدَمَ وَ إِنَّ أَبِي قَدْ مَرِضَ فَتَأْمُرُنِي أَنْ أَعُودَهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللّ

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘In the time of the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, a man left for a journey and instructed his wife not to leave her house until he comes back. He (the Imam) said that her father became ill so the woman

alkafi-10156Vol. 5, p. 513-514

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَقُولُ‌ خَطَبَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص النِّسَاءَ فَقَالَ يَا مَعَاشِرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ وَ لَوْ مِنْ حُلِيِّكُنَّ وَ لَوْ بِتَمْرَةٍ وَ لَوْ بِشِقِّ تَمْرَةٍ فَإِنَّ أَكْثَرَكُنَّ حَطَبُ جَهَنَّمَ إِنَّكُنَّ تُكْثِرْنَ اللَّعْنَ وَ تَكْفُرْنَ الْعَشِيرَةَ[1] فَقَالَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ بَنِي سُلَيْمٍ لَهَا عَقْلٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَ لَيْسَ نَحْنُ الْأُمَّهَاتُ الْحَامِلَاتُ الْمُرْضِ

‘O the community of women, you must give charity even if it is from your jewelries, a date or a piece of a date because the majority of you will be the fuel for the fire of hell if you frequently abuse and curse your associate (husband).’ A woman from banu Salim who had reason said, ‘O Messenger of Allah, we are mother

alkafi-10157Vol. 5, p. 514

خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص- يَوْمَ النَّحْرِ إِلَى ظَهْرِ الْمَدِينَةِ عَلَى جَمَلٍ عَارِي الْجِسْمِ فَمَرَّ بِالنِّسَاءِ فَوَقَفَ عَلَيْهِنَّ ثُمَّ قَالَ يَا مَعَاشِرَ النِّسَاءِ تَصَدَّقْنَ وَ أَطِعْنَ أَزْوَاجَكُنَّ فَإِنَّ أَكْثَرَكُنَّ فِي النَّارِ فَلَمَّا سَمِعْنَ ذَلِكَ بَكَيْنَ ثُمَّ قَامَتْ إِلَيْهِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ص فِي النَّارِ مَعَ الْكُفَّارِ وَ اللَّهِ مَا نَحْنُ بِكُفَّ

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that once on the tenth of the month of Dhul al-Hajj the Messenger of Allah (s.), moved out of the city of al-Madinah toward the backside of it on a camel without a saddle and passed by women, stopped higher than them and said, ‘O community of women, you must give charity and obey your husba

alkafi-10158Vol. 5, p. 514

لَيْسَ لِلْمَرْأَةِ أَمْرٌ مَعَ زَوْجِهَا فِي عِتْقٍ وَ لَا صَدَقَةٍ وَ لَا تَدْبِيرٍ وَ لَا هِبَةٍ وَ لَا نَذْرٍ فِي مَالِهَا إِلَّا بِإِذْنِ زَوْجِهَا إِلَّا فِي زَكَاةٍ أَوْ بِرِّ وَالِدَيْهَا أَوْ صِلَةِ قَرَابَتِهَا[2].

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘A woman does not have permission with the existence of her husband to set free a slave, give charity, contract with a slave, give gift or make a vow in her assets without the permission of her husband except payment of Zakat or doing good to parents or keeping good relations with her

alkafi-10159Vol. 5, p. 514

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ خَرَجَتْ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا بِغَيْرِ إِذْنِ زَوْجِهَا فَلَا نَفَقَةَ لَهَا حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Any woman who goes out of her house without the permission of her husband loses her right of maintenance until she comes back.’”

alkafi-10160Vol. 5, p. 514-515

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ النَّاجِي مِنَ الرِّجَالِ قَلِيلٌ وَ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ أَقَلُّ وَ أَقَلُّ قِيلَ وَ لِمَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ لِأَنَّهُنَّ كَافِرَاتُ الْغَضَبِ- مُؤْمِنَاتُ الرِّضَا[1].

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Of men very few find salvation and from women that number is even less and less.’ It was asked, ‘Why is it so O Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensat

alkafi-10161Vol. 5, p. 515

لِامْرَأَةِ سَعْدٍ هَنِيئاً لَكِ يَا خَنْسَاءُ فَلَوْ لَمْ يُعْطِكِ اللَّهُ شَيْئاً إِلَّا ابْنَتَكِ أُمَّ الْحُسَيْنِ لَقَدْ أَعْطَاكِ اللَّهُ خَيْراً كَثِيراً إِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الْمَرْأَةِ الصَّالِحَةِ فِي النِّسَاءِ كَمَثَلِ الْغُرَابِ الْأَعْصَمِ فِي الْغِرْبَانِ‌[2] وَ هُوَ الْأَبْيَضُ إِحْدَى الرِّجْلَيْنِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), once said to the wife of Sa‘d, ‘How fortunate it is for you O Khansa’, if Allah will not give you anything else besides your daughter, mother of al-Husayn; still Allah has given you a great deal of good. The case of a virtuous woman among women is like an al- A‘sam crow among the crows. It is th

alkafi-10163Vol. 5, p. 515

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ إِنَّمَا مَثَلُ الْمَرْأَةِ الصَّالِحَةِ مَثَلُ الْغُرَابِ الْأَعْصَمِ الَّذِي لَا يَكَادُ يُقْدَرُ عَلَيْهِ قِيلَ وَ مَا الْغُرَابُ الْأَعْصَمُ الَّذِي لَا يَكَادُ يُقْدَرُ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ الْأَبْيَضُ إِحْدَى رِجْلَيْهِ.

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘The existence of a virtuous woman is like an al-A‘sam crow which is so rare to find.’ It was asked, ‘What is an al- A‘sam crow?’ He (the Messenger of Allah)

alkafi-10164Vol. 5, p. 515

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ مَا لِإِبْلِيسَ جُنْدٌ أَعْظَمُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ وَ الْغَضَبِ.

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘No other thing serves Satan as the greatest army as women and anger do.’”

alkafi-10165Vol. 5, p. 515

إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ إِذَا كَبِرَتْ ذَهَبَ خَيْرُ شَطْرَيْهَا وَ بَقِيَ شَرُّهُمَا ذَهَبَ جَمَالُهَا وَ عَقِمَ رَحِمُهَا وَ احْتَدَّ لِسَانُهَا.

“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said, ‘When woman becomes old both parts of her goodness vanish and both parts of wickedness remain. Her beauty goes and she becomes barren and her tongue becomes very sharp.’”

alkafi-10166Vol. 5, p. 516

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ لَا تُنْزِلُوا النِّسَاءَ بِالْغُرَفِ وَ لَا تُعَلِّمُوهُنَّ الْكِتَابَةَ وَ عَلِّمُوهُنَّ الْمِغْزَلَ وَ سُورَةَ النُّورِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘You must not lodge women in a chamber, do not teach them writing (that would lead to unlawful behavior), but teach them the spinning wheel and Chapter 2

alkafi-10167Vol. 5, p. 516

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع‌ لَا تُعَلِّمُوا نِسَاءَكُمْ سُورَةَ يُوسُفَ وَ لَا تُقْرِءُوهُنَّ إِيَّاهَا فَإِنَّ فِيهَا الْفِتَنَ وَ عَلِّمُوهُنَّ سُورَةَ النُّورِ فَإِنَّ فِيهَا الْمَوَاعِظَ.

“‘Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), has said, ‘You must not teach your women Surah Yusuf and do not read it for them; in it there is sedition, instead teach them Surah Nur because in it there are exhortations.’”

alkafi-10170Vol. 5, p. 516

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي الْحَسَنِ ع وَ سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْمَرْأَةِ الْمُوسِرَةِ قَدْ حَجَّتْ حَجَّةَ الْإِسْلَامِ فَتَقُولُ لِزَوْجِهَا أَحِجَّنِي مِنْ مَالِي أَ لَهُ أَنْ يَمْنَعَهَا قَالَ نَعَمْ يَقُولُ حَقِّي عَلَيْكِ أَعْظَمُ مِنْ حَقِّكِ عَلَيَّ فِي هَذَا[2].

“I once asked abu al-Hassan (a.s.), about the case of an affluent woman who has performed Hajjatu al-Islam and she asks her husband to take her for al-Hajj from her own assets if he can deny her. He (the Imam) said, ’Yes, he can do so by saying, “My right on you is greater than your right on me in this issue.’””

alkafi-10171Vol. 5, p. 516-517

ذَكَرَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص النِّسَاءَ فَقَالَ اعْصُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ‌[1] قَبْلَ أَنْ يَأْمُرْنَكُمْ بِالْمُنْكَرِ وَ تَعَوَّذُوا بِاللَّهِ مِنْ شِرَارِهِنَّ وَ كُونُوا مِنْ خِيَارِهِنَّ عَلَى حَذَرٍ.

2. A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Mahbub from ‘Abd Allah ibn Sinan who has said the following: “Abu ’Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that women were mentioned before the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, a

alkafi-10172Vol. 5, p. 517

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ مَنْ أَطَاعَ امْرَأَتَهُ أَكَبَّهُ اللَّهُ عَلَى وَجْهِهِ فِي النَّارِ قِيلَ وَ مَا تِلْكَ الطَّاعَةُ قَالَ تَطْلُبُ مِنْهُ الذَّهَابَ إِلَى الْحَمَّامَاتِ وَ الْعُرُسَاتِ وَ الْعِيدَاتِ وَ النِّيَاحَاتِ وَ الثِّيَابَ الرِّقَاقَ‌[2].

3. Ali ibn Ibrahim has narrated from his father from al-Nawfaliy from al-Sakuniy who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Whoever obeys his woman Allah th

alkafi-10174Vol. 5, p. 517

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع فِي كَلَامٍ لَهُ‌ اتَّقُوا شِرَارَ النِّسَاءِ وَ كُونُوا مِنْ خِيَارِهِنَّ عَلَى حَذَرٍ وَ إِنْ أَمَرْنَكُمْ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَخَالِفُوهُنَّ كَيْ لَا يَطْمَعْنَ مِنْكُمْ فِي الْمُنْكَرِ.

‘You must stay away from wicked women and remain on your guard with the good ones. If they command you to do good things oppose them so that they will not expect you to listen to their unlawful demand.’”

alkafi-10175Vol. 5, p. 517

ذُكِرَ عِنْدَ أَبِي جَعْفَرٍ ع النِّسَاءُ فَقَالَ لَا تُشَاوِرُوهُنَّ فِي النَّجْوَى‌[3] وَ لَا تُطِيعُوهُنَّ فِي ذِي قَرَابَةٍ.

“Once women were mentioned before abu Ja’far (a.s.), and he (the Imam) said, ‘You must not ask for their advice in private (secret) matters and you must not listen to them in the issues about the relatives.’”

alkafi-10176Vol. 5, p. 517

تَعَوَّذُوا بِاللَّهِ مِنْ طَالِحَاتِ نِسَائِكُمْ وَ كُونُوا مِنْ خِيَارِهِنَّ عَلَى حَذَرٍ وَ لَا تُطِيعُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ فَيَأْمُرْنَكُمْ بِالْمُنْكَرِ.

“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘You must ask refuge with Allah against the wicked ones of your women and remain on your guard with the good ones of them. You must not listen to them in lawful matters so that they command you to do unlawful acts.’”

alkafi-10177Vol. 5, p. 517

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَقُولُ‌ إِيَّاكُمْ وَ مُشَاوَرَةَ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّ فِيهِنَّ الضَّعْفَ وَ الْوَهْنَ وَ الْعَجْزَ.

8. It is narrated from the narrator of the previous Hadith from abu ‘Abd Allah al-Jamuraniy from al-Hassan ibn Ali ibn abu Hamzah from Sandal from ibn Muskan from Sulayman ibn Khalid who has said the following: “I once heard abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, saying, ‘You must not take advice from women because there is

alkafi-10180Vol. 5, p. 518

كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص إِذَا أَرَادَ الْحَرْبَ دَعَا نِسَاءَهُ فَاسْتَشَارَهُنَّ ثُمَّ خَالَفَهُنَّ.

“Whenever the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, was about to embark on an armed expedition, he would call his wives for advice and then oppose them.’” (Details of such advice are not mentioned)

alkafi-10181Vol. 5, p. 518

اسْتَعِيذُوا بِاللَّهِ مِنْ شِرَارِ نِسَائِكُمْ وَ كُونُوا مِنْ خِيَارِهِنَّ عَلَى حَذَرٍ وَ لَا تُطِيعُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ فَيَدْعُونَكُمْ إِلَى الْمُنْكَرِ وَ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص النِّسَاءُ لَا يُشَاوَرْنَ فِي النَّجْوَى وَ لَا يُطَعْنَ فِي ذَوِي الْقُرْبَى إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ إِذَا أَسَنَّتْ ذَهَبَ خَيْرُ شَطْرَيْهَا وَ بَقِيَ شَرُّهُمَا وَ ذَلِكَ أَنَّهُ يَعْقِمُ رَحِمُهَا وَ يَسُوءُ خُلُقُهَا وَ يَحْ

12. Ali has narrated from his father from “Amr ibn ‘Uthman from certain persons of his people who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘You must ask for refuge with Allah against the wicked ones of your women and remain on your guard with the good ones of them. You must not obey them in lawful matt

alkafi-10182Vol. 5, p. 518

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ لَيْسَ لِلنِّسَاءِ مِنْ سَرَوَاتِ الطَّرِيقِ شَيْ‌ءٌ[2] وَ لَكِنَّهَا تَمْشِي فِي جَانِبِ الْحَائِطِ وَ الطَّرِيقِ.

“Abu ’Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ’A woman must not walk in the center of the road. She must walk next to the wall or side of the road.”’

alkafi-10183Vol. 5, p. 518-519

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ أَيُّ امْرَأَةٍ تَطَيَّبَتْ ثُمَّ خَرَجَتْ مِنْ بَيْتِهَا فَهِيَ تُلْعَنُ‌[3] حَتَّى تَرْجِعَ‌ إِلَى بَيْتِهَا مَتَى مَا رَجَعَتْ.

“Abu ’Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘If a woman wears perfumes then goes out of her house, she is then cursed and condemned until she returns to her home whenever she does.’”

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