Love & Affection

دَخَلْتُ عَلَى أَبِي الْحَسَنِ مُوسَى ع فَقَالَ لِي يَا زِيَادُ إِنَّكَ لَتَعْمَلُ عَمَلَ‌ السُّلْطَانِ قَالَ قُلْتُ أَجَلْ قَالَ لِي وَ لِمَ قُلْتُ أَنَا رَجُلٌ لِي مُرُوءَةٌ[1] وَ عَلَيَّ عِيَالٌ وَ لَيْسَ وَرَاءَ ظَهْرِي شَيْ‌ءٌ فَقَالَ لِي يَا زِيَادُ لَأَنْ أَسْقُطَ مِنْ حَالِقٍ فَأَتَقَطَّعَ‌[2] قِطْعَةً قِطْعَةً أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ مِنْ أَنْ أَتَوَلَّى لِأَحَدٍ مِنْهُمْ عَمَلًا أَوْ أَطَأَ بِسَاطَ أَحَدِهِمْ إِلَّ

“I once went to visit abu al-Hassan Musa (a.s.), and he (the Imam) asked me, ‘O Ziyad, do you work for Sultan ? 5 I replied, ‘Yes, I do so . 5 He (the Imam) said to me, ‘Why do you do so ? 5 I replied, ‘I am a man of fairness and I have a family to feed. I do not have any other means for support . 5 He (the Imam) said,

رَافَقْتُ أَبَا جَعْفَرٍ ع فِي السَّنَةِ الَّتِي حَجَّ فِيهَا فِي أَوَّلِ خِلَافَةِ الْمُعْتَصِمِ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ وَ أَنَا مَعَهُ عَلَى الْمَائِدَةِ وَ هُنَاكَ جَمَاعَةٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَاءِ السُّلْطَانِ إِنَّ وَالِيَنَا جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ رَجُلٌ يَتَوَلَّاكُمْ أَهْلَ الْبَيْتِ وَ يُحِبُّكُمْ وَ عَلَيَّ فِي دِيوَانِهِ خَرَاجٌ فَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ جَعَلَنِيَ اللَّهُ فِدَاكَ أَنْ تَكْتُبَ إِلَيْهِ كِتَاباً بِالْإِحْسَانِ إِلَيَّ فَ

"I accompanied Abu Ja'far al-Baqir (as) in the year he performed Hajj during the beginning of al-Mu'tasim's caliphate. While we were at the table, and a group of the Sultan's officials were present, I said to him: 'May I be your ransom, our governor is a man who is loyal to you, Ahl al-Bayt, and he loves you. I owe tax

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع‌ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْتَرِفَ الْأَمِينَ وَ فِي رِوَايَةٍ أُخْرَى إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَعَالَى يُحِبُّ الْمُؤْمِنَ الْمُحْتَرِفَ.

“Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), has said, ‘Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, loves persons who are trustworthy and possess technical skills/” In another Hadith it is said, ‘Allah, most High, loves the skillful believer.’”

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص لِرَجُلٍ أَنْتَ وَ مَالُكَ لِأَبِيكَ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ ع وَ مَا أُحِبُّ لَهُ أَنْ يَأْخُذَ مِنْ مَالِ ابْنِهِ إِلَّا مَا احْتَاجَ إِلَيْهِ مِمَّا لَا بُدَّ مِنْهُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَ‌ لا يُحِبُّ الْفَسادَ.

‘You and your property belong to your father.’ Abu Ja’far (a.s.), then said, ‘I do not like his spending from the property of his son more than what he needs for his bare necessities; Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, does not love destruction.’”

قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع‌ لَأَنْ أُهْدِيَ لِأَخِي الْمُسْلِمِ هَدِيَّةً تَنْفَعُهُ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ مِنْ أَنْ أَتَصَدَّقَ بِمِثْلِهَا.

Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), has said, ‘Presenting a gift to my Muslim brother which can benefit him is more beloved to me than giving charity.’”

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ تَهَادَوْا بِالنَّبِقِ تَحْيَا الْمَوَدَّةُ وَ الْمُوَالاةُ[2].

‘You should exchange gifts of berries; it revives affection and friendship.’”

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ تَهَادَوْا تَحَابُّوا تَهَادَوْا فَإِنَّهَا تَذْهَبُ بِالضَّغَائِنِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘You should exchange gifts; you will find affection. You should exchange gifts; it removes malice.’”

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع رَجُلٌ أَمَرَ غُلَامَهُ أَنْ يَبِيعَ كَرْمَهُ عَصِيراً فَبَاعَهُ خَمْراً ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ بِثَمَنِهِ فَقَالَ إِنَّ أَحَبَّ الْأَشْيَاءِ إِلَيَّ أَنْ يُتَصَدَّقَ بِثَمَنِهِ.

“I once said to abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), ‘A man asks his slave to sell his grapes as grape juice but he sells it as wine; then brings the price to him.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘The most beloved thing to me in this case is to give it (price) as charity.’”

فِي الرَّجُلِ يُزَارِعُ فَيَزْرَعُ أَرْضَ غَيْرِهِ فَيَقُولُ ثُلُثٌ لِلْبَقَرِ وَ ثُلُثٌ لِلْبَذْرِ وَ ثُلُثٌ لِلْأَرْضِ قَالَ لَا يُسَمِّي شَيْئاً مِنَ الْحَبِّ وَ الْبَقَرِ وَ لَكِنْ يَقُولُ ازْرَعْ فِيهَا كَذَا وَ كَذَا إِنْ شِئْتَ نِصْفاً وَ إِنْ شِئْتَ ثُلُثاً.

“About the case of a man who works in sharecropping, cultivates the land of another man and says, ‘One third for the bulls, one-third for the seed and one-third for the land’, he (the Imam) Alayhi al- Salam, has said, ‘Things like bulls, seeds and so on must not be mentioned, instead he must say, “You must cultivate so

اكْتَرَيْتُ بَغْلًا إِلَى قَصْرِ ابْنِ هُبَيْرَةَ ذَاهِباً وَ جَائِياً بِكَذَا وَ كَذَا وَ خَرَجْتُ فِي طَلَبِ غَرِيمٍ لِي فَلَمَّا صِرْتُ قُرْبَ قَنْطَرَةِ الْكُوفَةِ خُبِّرْتُ أَنَّ صَاحِبِي تَوَجَّهَ إِلَى النِّيلِ فَتَوَجَّهْتُ نَحْوَ النِّيلِ فَلَمَّا أَتَيْتُ النِّيلَ خُبِّرْتُ أَنَّ صَاحِبِي تَوَجَّهَ إِلَى بَغْدَادَ فَاتَّبَعْتُهُ وَ ظَفِرْتُ بِهِ وَ فَرَغْتُ مِمَّا بَيْنِي وَ بَيْنَهُ وَ رَجَعْنَا إِلَى الْك

6. A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad from ibn Mahbub from abu Wallad al-Hannat who has said the following: “I once rented a mule to Qasr ibn Hubayrah for both ways for so and so much amount. I left in search of my debtor and when I reached near the bridge of al-Kufah, I was informed that my d

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا جَعْفَرٍ ع يَقُولُ‌ كَانَ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص مُؤْمِنٌ فَقِيرٌ شَدِيدُ الْحَاجَةِ مِنْ أَهْلِ الصُّفَّةِ وَ كَانَ مُلَازِماً لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص عِنْدَ مَوَاقِيتِ الصَّلَاةِ كُلِّهَا لَا يَفْقِدُهُ فِي شَيْ‌ءٍ مِنْهَا وَ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص يَرِقُّ لَهُ وَ يَنْظُرُ إِلَى حَاجَتِهِ وَ غُرْبَتِهِ فَيَقُولُ يَا سَعْدُ لَوْ قَدْ جَاءَنِي شَيْ‌ءٌ لَأَغْنَيْتُكَ قَالَ فَأَبْطَأَ ذَلِكَ عَلَى ر

“I once heard abu Ja‘far (a.s.), saying, ‘During the time of the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, there was a believing man, poor and very needy of the people of the platform (in front of Masjid). He always kept very close to the Messenge

قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ مِنْ أَخْلَاقِ الْأَنْبِيَاءِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ حُبُّ النِّسَاءِ.

“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ’Love for women is of the moral manners of the prophets.’”

مَا أَظُنُّ رَجُلًا يَزْدَادُ فِي الْإِيمَانِ خَيْراً إِلَّا ازْدَادَ حُبّاً لِلنِّسَاءِ.

“Abu ’Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘I do not think a man can increase anything good in his belief except that he increases his love for women.’”

سَمِعْتُ عَلِيَّ بْنَ مُوسَى الرِّضَا ع يَقُولُ‌ ثَلَاثٌ مِنْ سُنَنِ الْمُرْسَلِينَ الْعِطْرُ وَ أَخْذُ الشَّعْرِ وَ كَثْرَةُ الطَّرُوقَةِ[1].

‘Three things are of the traditions of the Messengers (of Allah): use of perfume, trimming hairs and ampleness of (relation in) marriage.’”

يَسْأَلُهُ عَنْ ذَلِكَ فَكَتَبَ إِلَيْهِ أَمَّا قَوْلُكَ فِي النِّسَاءِ فَقَدْ عَلِمْتَ مَا كَانَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص مِنَ النِّسَاءِ وَ أَمَّا قَوْلُكَ فِي الطَّعَامِ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص يَأْكُلُ اللَّحْمَ وَ الْعَسَلَ.

“Sukayn al-Nakha‘iy worshipped and had given up women, perfume and food. He wrote to abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), and asked him (the Imam) about it. He (the Imam) wrote to him in answer, ‘About your words concerning women, take notice about the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy

مَا أَظُنُّ رَجُلًا يَزْدَادُ فِي هَذَا الْأَمْرِ خَيْراً إِلَّا ازْدَادَ حُبّاً لِلنِّسَاءِ[1].

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘I do not think anyone increases goodness in this issue (belief in the Divine Authority of ‘A’immah) without his increasing love for women.’”

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ مَا أُحِبُّ مِنْ دُنْيَاكُمْ إِلَّا النِّسَاءَ وَ الطِّيبَ.

‘I do not love anything from your world except women and perfume.’”

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ جُعِلَ قُرَّةُ عَيْنِي فِي الصَّلَاةِ[3] وَ لَذَّتِي فِي النِّسَاءِ.

‘The delight for my eyes is placed in Salat (prayer) and my pleasure in women.’”

سَأَلَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع أَيُّ الْأَشْيَاءِ أَلَذُّ قَالَ فَقُلْنَا غَيْرَ شَيْ‌ءٍ فَقَالَ هُوَ ع أَلَذُّ الْأَشْيَاءِ مُبَاضَعَةُ النِّسَاءِ[4].

“We once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), ’What is the most enjoyable thing? 5 We said other things. He (the Imam) said, ’The most enjoyable of things is sexual intercourse with women.”’

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ جُعِلَ قُرَّةُ عَيْنِي فِي الصَّلَاةِ وَ لَذَّتِي فِي الدُّنْيَا النِّسَاءُ وَ رَيْحَانَتَيَّ الْحَسَنُ وَ الْحُسَيْنُ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘The delight of my eyes is placed in Salat (prayer), my enjoyment of the world in women and my comfort and relief with al-Hassan and al-Husayn (a.s.).”’

قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ مَا تَلَذَّذَ النَّاسُ فِي الدُّنْيَا وَ الْآخِرَةِ بِلَذَّةٍ أَكْثَرَ لَهُمْ مِنْ لَذَّةِ النِّسَاءِ وَ هُوَ قَوْلُ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- زُيِّنَ لِلنَّاسِ حُبُّ الشَّهَواتِ مِنَ النِّساءِ وَ الْبَنِينَ‌ إِلَى آخِرِ الْآيَةِ[5] ثُمَّ قَالَ وَ إِنَّ أَهْلَ الْجَنَّةِ مَا يَتَلَذَّذُونَ بِشَيْ‌ءٍ مِنَ الْجَنَّةِ أَشْهَى عِنْدَهُمْ مِنَ النِّكَاحِ لَا طَعَامٍ وَ لَا شَرَابٍ.

‘The most enjoyable thing people experience in this world and in the hereafter is enjoyment with women and it is in the words of Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, ‘The love and enjoyment for women and children is made attractive for people.’ (3:13) He (the Imam) then said, ‘People of paradise will not enjoy from any

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ مُوسَى بْنَ جَعْفَرٍ ع وَ جَلَسْنَا إِلَيْهِ فِي مَسْجِدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص فَتَذَاكَرْنَا أَمْرَ النِّسَاءِ فَأَكْثَرْنَا الْخَوْضَ وَ هُوَ سَاكِتٌ لَا يَدْخُلُ فِي حَدِيثِنَا بِحَرْفٍ فَلَمَّا سَكَتْنَا قَالَ أَمَّا الْحَرَائِرُ فَلَا تَذْكُرُوهُنَّ وَ لَكِنْ‌ خَيْرُ الْجَوَارِي مَا كَانَ لَكَ فِيهَا هَوًى وَ كَانَ لَهَا عَقْلٌ وَ أَدَبٌ فَلَسْتَ تَحْتَاجُ إِلَى أَنْ تَأْمُرَ وَ لَا تَنْهَى

“I once I heard abu al-Hassan, Musa ibn Ja‘far (a.s.) - while we were sitting in the Masjid of the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause - discussing issues about women and we delved in it a great deal but he (the Imam) was quiet and did not en

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع إِنَّ صَاحِبَتِي هَلَكَتْ وَ كَانَتْ لِي مُوَافِقَةً وَ قَدْ هَمَمْتُ أَنْ أَتَزَوَّجَ فَقَالَ لِيَ انْظُرْ أَيْنَ تَضَعُ نَفْسَكَ وَ مَنْ تُشْرِكُهُ فِي مَالِكَ وَ تُطْلِعُهُ عَلَى دِينِكَ وَ سِرِّكَ فَإِنْ كُنْتَ لَا بُدَّ فَاعِلًا فَبِكْراً تُنْسَبُ إِلَى الْخَيْرِ وَ إِلَى حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ وَ اعْلَمْ أَنَّهُنَّ كَمَا قَالَ‌ أَلَا إِنَّ النِّسَاءَ خُلِقْنَ شَتَّى‌ فَمِنْهُنَّ الْغَن

“I once said to abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), ‘My wife who lived in complete harmony with me has died and I want to marry.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Think where you want to place yourself and whom you are making your partner in your assets, inform of your religion and secrets. If you must marry find a virgin who is spoken of with

سَمِعْتُ جَابِرَ بْنَ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ يَقُولُ كُنَّا عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ ص فَقَالَ: إِنَّ خَيْرَ نِسَائِكُمُ الْوَلُودُ الْوَدُودُ الْعَفِيفَةُ الْعَزِيزَةُ فِي أَهْلِهَا الذَّلِيلَةُ مَعَ بَعْلِهَا الْمُتَبَرِّجَةُ مَعَ زَوْجِهَا الْحَصَانُ عَلَى غَيْرِهِ الَّتِي تَسْمَعُ قَوْلَهُ وَ تُطِيعُ أَمْرَهُ وَ إِذَا خَلَا بِهَا بَذَلَتْ لَهُ مَا يُرِيدُ مِنْهَا وَ لَمْ تَبَذَّلْ كَتَبَذُّلِ الرَّجُلِ.

“The best of your women are the child bearing, loving and chaste who are dear at home, humble with her husband, showing her beauty to her husband, fortressed from strangers, who listens to his words and obeys his orders and in private offers to him what he wants and she does not display vulgar manners as man does.’””

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ تَزَوَّجُوا وَ زَوِّجُوا أَلَا فَمِنْ حَظِّ امْرِئٍ مُسْلِمٍ إِنْفَاقُ قِيمَةِ أَيِّمَةٍ[2] وَ مَا مِنْ شَيْ‌ءٍ أَحَبَّ إِلَى اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِنْ بَيْتٍ يُعْمَرُ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ بِالنِّكَاحِ وَ مَا مِنْ شَيْ‌ءٍ أَبْغَضَ إِلَى اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِنْ بَيْتٍ يُخْرَبُ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ بِالْفُرْقَةِ يَعْنِي الطَّلَاقَ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ إِ

1. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn ‘Isa from Ali ibn al-Hakam from Safwan ibn Mehran who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘

إِذَا أَصَابَ الْمُسْلِمَةَ فَمَا يَصْنَعُ بِالْيَهُودِيَّةِ وَ النَّصْرَانِيَّةِ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ يَكُونُ لَهُ فِيهَا الْهَوَى فَقَالَ إِنْ فَعَلَ فَلْيَمْنَعْهَا مِنْ شُرْبِ الْخَمْرِ وَ أَكْلِ لَحْمِ الْخِنْزِيرِ وَ اعْلَمْ أَنَّ عَلَيْهِ فِي دِينِهِ غَضَاضَةً[2].

“About the case of a man who marries a Jewish or a Christian woman, abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘What has he to do with a Jewish or Christian woman if he can find a Muslim woman?’ I (the narrator) asked, ‘What happens if he loves her?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘If he marries, he must stop her from drinking wine and ea

سَأَلَ ابْنُ أَبِي الْعَوْجَاءِ هِشَامَ بْنَ الْحَكَمِ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَ لَيْسَ اللَّهُ حَكِيماً قَالَ بَلَى وَ هُوَ أَحْكَمُ الْحَاكِمِينَ قَالَ فَأَخْبِرْنِي عَنْ قَوْلِهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- فَانْكِحُوا ما طابَ لَكُمْ مِنَ النِّساءِ مَثْنى‌ وَ ثُلاثَ وَ رُباعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَواحِدَةً[1] أَ لَيْسَ هَذَا فَرْضاً قَالَ بَلَى قَالَ فَأَخْبِرْنِي عَنْ قَوْلِهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- وَ لَنْ تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَنْ ت

“Once, ibn abu al-‘Awja’ asked Hisham ibn al-Hakam, ’Is not Allah wise?’ Hisham ibn al-Hakam replied, ’Yes, He is. He is the most firm of the judges.’ He (ibn abu al-’Awja’) then asked, ’Tell me about the words of Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, “Marry whomever of women you like, two, three or four and if you fear

خَطَبَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع بِهَذِهِ الْخُطْبَةِ فَقَالَ الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ أَحْمَدُهُ وَ أَسْتَعِينُهُ وَ أَسْتَغْفِرُهُ وَ أَسْتَهْدِيهِ وَ أُومِنُ بِهِ وَ أَتَوَكَّلُ عَلَيْهِ وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّداً ص عَبْدُهُ وَ رَسُولُهُ أَرْسَلَهُ‌ بِالْهُدى‌ وَ دِينِ الْحَقِّ لِيُظْهِرَهُ عَلَى الدِّينِ كُلِّهِ* دَلِيلًا عَلَيْهِ وَ دَاعِياً إِلَيْهِ

3. Ahmad ibn ‘Isma’il ibn Mehran has said that narrated to us ‘Abd al-Malik ibn abu al-Harith from Jabir who has said the following: “Abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, once addressed with the following speech: ‘All praise belongs to Allah, I praise Him, beg assistance from

أَنْ لَا إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللَّهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيكَ لَهُ وَ أَشْهَدُ أَنَّ مُحَمَّداً عَبْدُهُ وَ رَسُولُهُ عَبْدٌ لَمْ يَعْبُدْ أَحَداً غَيْرَهُ اصْطَفَاهُ بِعِلْمِهِ وَ أَمِيناً عَلَى وَحْيِهِ وَ رَسُولًا إِلَى خَلْقِهِ فَصَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَ آلِهِ أَمَّا بَعْدُ فَقَدْ سَمِعْنَا مَقَالَتَكُمْ وَ أَنْتُمُ الْأَحْيَاءُ الْأَقْرَبُونَ نَرْغَبُ فِي مُصَاهَرَتِكُمْ وَ نُسْعِفُكُمْ بِحَاجَتِكُمْ وَ نَضَنُّ بِإِخَائ

“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), as response in Khutbah for marriage has said, ‘All praise belongs to Allah who chooses praise especially for Himself, glorified is thereby His mention and facilitated thereby is His command. We praise Him without any doubt in it; we see what we prepare in the hope for success and as key to its

قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ص‌ أَيُّمَا امْرَأَةٍ تَصَدَّقَتْ عَلَى زَوْجِهَا بِمَهْرِهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ يَدْخُلَ بِهَا إِلَّا كَتَبَ اللَّهُ لَهَا بِكُلِّ دِينَارٍ عِتْقَ رَقَبَةٍ قِيلَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَكَيْفَ بِالْهِبَةِ بَعْدَ الدُّخُولِ قَالَ إِنَّمَا ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْمَوَدَّةِ وَ الْأُلْفَةِ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Holy Prophet, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘If a woman gives her mahr (dower) as charity to her husband before going to bed with her, Allah writes for her for every dinar freeing of a slave.’ It was ask

إِنَّ الْجَدَّ إِذَا زَوَّجَ ابْنَةَ ابْنِهِ وَ كَانَ أَبُوهَا حَيّاً وَ كَانَ الْجَدُّ مَرْضِيّاً جَازَ قُلْنَا فَإِنْ هَوِيَ أَبُو الْجَارِيَةِ هَوًى وَ هَوِيَ الْجَدُّ هَوًى وَ هُمَا سَوَاءٌ فِي الْعَدْلِ وَ الرِّضَا قَالَ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ أَنْ تَرْضَى بِقَوْلِ الْجَدِّ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘If a grandfather gives his granddaughter in marriage and his son is living but grandfather is ill, still marriage is binding.’ We then asked, ‘What happens if the father loves one and grandfather loves another man and they both are equal in justice and agreement?’ He (the Imam) said,

سَأَلَهُ رَجُلٌ عَنْ رَجُلٍ مَاتَ وَ تَرَكَ أَخَوَيْنِ وَ الْبِنْتَ وَ الِابْنَةُ صَغِيرَةٌ فَعَمَدَ أَحَدُ الْأَخَوَيْنِ الْوَصِيُّ فَزَوَّجَ الِابْنَةَ مِنِ ابْنِهِ ثُمَّ مَاتَ أَبُو الِابْنِ الْمُزَوَّجِ فَلَمَّا أَنْ مَاتَ قَالَ الْآخَرُ أَخِي لَمْ يُزَوِّجْ ابْنَهُ فَزَوَّجَ الْجَارِيَةَ مِنِ ابْنِهِ فَقِيلَ لِلْجَارِيَةِ أَيُّ الزَّوْجَيْنِ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْكِ الْأَوَّلُ أَوِ الْآخَرُ قَالَتِ الْآخَرُ ثُمَّ إِنَّ

“Once a man asked him (the Imam) (a.s.), about the case of a man who dies and leaves behind two brothers and a daughter who is small. One brother becomes the executor of the will and gives the girl in marriage to his son. The father of the boy married to the girl dies and thereafter the other brother says that his brot

قِيلَ لَهُ إِنَّا نُزَوِّجُ صِبْيَانَنَا وَ هُمْ صِغَارٌ قَالَ فَقَالَ إِذَا زُوِّجُوا وَ هُمْ صِغَارٌ لَمْ يَكَادُوا يَتَأَلَّفُوا.

“It was once said to abu ‘ Abd Allah, or abu al-Hassan (a.s.), ‘We give our children in marriage when they are small children.’ He (the narrator) has said that he (the Imam) said, ‘If they are given in marriage when they are small, they may fail to develop loving relationships.’”

قُلْتُ لَهُ إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَتَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً وَ إِنَّ أَبَوَيَّ أَرَادَا غَيْرَهَا قَالَ تَزَوَّجِ الَّتِي هَوِيتَ وَ دَعِ الَّتِي يَهْوَى أَبَوَاكَ‌[2].

‘Marry the one you love, not the one your parents love.”’

النِّكَاحُ جَائِزٌ إِنْ شَاءَ الْمُتَزَوِّجُ قَبِلَ وَ إِنْ شَاءَ تَرَكَ فَإِنْ تَرَكَ الْمُتَزَوِّجُ تَزْوِيجَهُ فَالْمَهْرُ لَازِمٌ لِأُمِّهِ.

“Once, abu Ja’far (a.s.), was asked about the case of a man whose mother arranged marriage for him in his absence. He (the Imam) said, ‘Marriage is permissible, the husband may agree or disagree; and if he disagrees payment of mahr (dower) becomes due on his mother.’”

قُلْتُ لَهُ الرَّجُلُ تَكُونُ لِابْنِهِ جَارِيَةٌ أَ لَهُ أَنْ يَطَأَهَا فَقَالَ يُقَوِّمُهَا عَلَى نَفْسِهِ قِيمَةً وَ يُشْهِدُ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ بِثَمَنِهَا أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ.

Ali Bin Ibrahim, from his father, from Ibn Abu Umer, from Abdul Rahman Bin Al Hajjaj, (It has been narrated) from Abu Al-Hassan Musa asws , said, ‘I said to him asws , ‘The man, there happens to be a slave girl for his son, it is for him that he sleeps with her?’ So he asws said: ‘He would evaluate her upon himself wit

سَأَلْتُهُ عَنْ جَارِيَةٍ بَيْنَ رَجُلَيْنِ دَبَّرَاهَا جَمِيعاً ثُمَّ أَحَلَّ أَحَدُهُمَا فَرْجَهَا لِشَرِيكِهِ قَالَ هُوَ لَهُ حَلَالٌ وَ أَيُّهُمَا مَاتَ قَبْلَ صَاحِبِهِ فَقَدْ صَارَ نِصْفُهَا حُرّاً مِنْ قِبَلِ الَّذِي مَاتَ وَ نِصْفُهَا مُدَبَّراً قُلْتُ أَ رَأَيْتَ إِنْ أَرَادَ الْبَاقِي مِنْهُمَا أَنْ يَمَسَّهَا أَ لَهُ ذَلِكَ قَالَ لَا إِلَّا أَنْ يَبُتَّ عِتْقَهَا وَ يَتَزَوَّجَهَا بِرِضاً مِنْهَا مِثْلَ مَ

Muhammad Bin Yahya, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad, from Ibn Mahboub, from Ibn Raib, from Muhammad Bin Qays, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja’far asws , said, ‘I asked him asws about a slave girl between two men who both managed her together. Then one of the two permitted her sanctity to his partner. He asws said: ‘It is Pe

إِنَّ رَجُلًا مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ أَتَى أَبَا جَعْفَرٍ ع فَقَالَ لَهُ إِنِّي قَدِ ابْتُلِيتُ بِأَمْرٍ عَظِيمٍ إِنِّي وَقَعْتُ عَلَى جَارِيَتِي ثُمَّ خَرَجْتُ فِي بَعْضِ حَوَائِجِي فَانْصَرَفْتُ مِنَ الطَّرِيقِ فَأَصَبْتُ غُلَامِي بَيْنَ رِجْلَيِ الْجَارِيَةِ فَاعْتَزَلْتُهَا فَحَبِلَتْ ثُمَّ وَضَعَتْ جَارِيَةً لِعِدَّةِ تِسْعَةِ أَشْهُرٍ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ ع احْبِسِ الْجَارِيَةَ لَا تَبِعْهَا وَ أَنْفِقْ عَلَي

A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Muhammad Bin Khalid, from Ibn Fazzal, from Muhammad Bin Ajlan who said that, ‘A man from the Helpers came over to Abu Ja’far asws , so he said to him asws , ‘I am afflicted with a grievous matter. I fell upon my slave girl, then I went out regarding one of my needs, and I turn

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص‌ مَنْ أَحَبَّ أَنْ يَكُونَ عَلَى فِطْرَتِي فَلْيَسْتَنَّ بِسُنَّتِي وَ إِنَّ مِنْ سُنَّتِيَ النِّكَاحَ.

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Whoever loves to follow my nature (culture), he must follow my Sunnah; and of my Sunnah is marriage.’”

سَمِعْتُ رَجُلًا وَ هُوَ يَقُولُ لِأَبِي جَعْفَرٍ ع جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ إِنِّي رَجُلٌ قَدْ أَسْنَنْتُ وَ قَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً بِكْراً صَغِيرَةً وَ لَمْ أَدْخُلْ بِهَا وَ أَنَا أَخَافُ أَنَّهَا إِذَا دَخَلَتْ عَلَيَّ تَرَانِي أَنْ تَكْرَهَنِي لِخِضَابِي وَ كِبَرِي فَقَالَ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ ع إِذَا دَخَلَتْ فَمُرْهَا قَبْلَ أَنْ تَصِلَ إِلَيْكَ أَنْ تَكُونَ مُتَوَضِّئَةً ثُمَّ أَنْتَ لَا تَصِلُ إِلَيْهَا حَتَّى تَوَضَّ

1. Muhammad ibn Yahya has narrated from Ahmad ibn Muhammad ibn ‘Isa and A number of our people have narrated from Ahmad ibn abu ‘ Abd Allah from ibn Mahbub from Jamil ibn Salih from abu Basir who has said the following: “I heard a man saying to abu Ja‘far, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, ‘I pray to Allah to keep my soul in service f

أَتَى رَجُلٌ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع فَقَالَ لَهُ إِنِّي تَزَوَّجْتُ فَادْعُ اللَّهَ لِي فَقَالَ قُلِ- اللَّهُمَّ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُهَا وَ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا اللَّهُمَّ اجْعَلْهَا وَلُوداً وَدُوداً لَا تَفْرَكُ تَأْكُلُ مِمَّا رَاحَ وَ لَا تَسْأَلُ عَمَّا سَرَحَ‌[2].

4. It is narrated from the narrator of the previous Hadith from abu Yusuf from al-Mithamiy in a marfu’ manner has said the following: “Once, a man came to ’Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), and said, ‘I have just married, pray for me to Allah.’ He (the Imam) said, ’Say, 0 Lord, with Your words I have made her marriage lawful an

قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع‌ يَا أَبَا مُحَمَّدٍ أَيَّ شَيْ‌ءٍ يَقُولُ الرَّجُلُ مِنْكُمْ إِذَا دَخَلَتْ عَلَيْهِ امْرَأَتُهُ قُلْتُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ أَ يَسْتَطِيعُ الرَّجُلُ أَنْ يَقُولَ شَيْئاً فَقَالَ أَ لَا أُعَلِّمُكَ مَا تَقُولُ قُلْتُ بَلَى قَالَ تَقُولُ- بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ اسْتَحْلَلْتُ فَرْجَهَا وَ فِي أَمَانَةِ اللَّهِ أَخَذْتُهَا اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ قَضَيْتَ لِي فِي رَحِمِهَا شَيْئاً فَاجْعَلْهُ بَارّاً تَقِ

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), once said to me, ‘O abu Muhammad, what does one of you say when his wife comes to him?’ I replied, ‘I pray to Allah to keep my soul in service for your cause, can a man say anything?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘Will you like if I teach you what to say?’ I replied, ‘Yes, please teach me.’ He (the Imam)

قَالَ لِي أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَا أَبَا مُحَمَّدٍ إِذَا أَتَيْتَ أَهْلَكَ فَأَيَّ شَيْ‌ءٍ تَقُولُ قَالَ قُلْتُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ وَ أُطِيقُ أَنْ أَقُولَ شَيْئاً قَالَ بَلَى قُلِ- اللَّهُمَّ بِكَلِمَاتِكَ اسْتَحْلَلْتُ فَرْجَهَا وَ بِأَمَانَتِكَ أَخَذْتُهَا فَإِنْ قَضَيْتَ فِي رَحِمِهَا شَيْئاً فَاجْعَلْهُ تَقِيّاً زَكِيّاً وَ لَا تَجْعَلْ لِلشَّيْطَانِ فِيهِ شِرْكاً قَالَ قُلْتُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ وَ يَكُونُ فِيهِ شِ

5. It is narrated from the narrator of the previous Hadith from his father from Hamzah ibn ‘Abd Allah from Jamil ibn Darraj from abu al- Walid from abu Basir who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, once said to me, ‘O abu Muhammad, what do you say when you go to bed with your wife?’ I said, ‘I pr

قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع الْمَرْأَةُ تَغَارُ عَلَى الرَّجُلِ تُؤْذِيهِ قَالَ ذَلِكَ مِنَ الْحُبِّ.

‘When a woman feels jealous against man, she causes disappointment for him.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘It is because of (her) love/”

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَقُولُ‌ انْصَرَفَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص مِنْ سَرِيَّةٍ قَدْ كَانَ أُصِيبَ فِيهَا نَاسٌ كَثِيرٌ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ فَاسْتَقْبَلَتْهُ النِّسَاءُ يَسْأَلْنَهُ عَنْ قَتْلَاهُنَّ فَدَنَتْ مِنْهُ امْرَأَةٌ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا فَعَلَ فُلَانٌ قَالَ وَ مَا هُوَ مِنْكِ قَالَتْ أَبِي قَالَ احْمَدِي اللَّهَ وَ اسْتَرْجِعِي فَقَدِ اسْتُشْهِدَ فَفَعَلَتْ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ قَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ

“I once heard abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), saying that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, once returned from an armed expedition during which a large number of Muslims were killed. Women came to him (the Messenger of Allah) asking about their

سَمِعْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ ع يَقُولُ‌ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص لِابْنَةِ جَحْشٍ قُتِلَ خَالُكِ حَمْزَةُ قَالَ فَاسْتَرْجَعَتْ وَ قَالَتْ أَحْتَسِبُهُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ لَهَا قُتِلَ أَخُوكِ فَاسْتَرْجَعَتْ وَ قَالَتْ أَحْتَسِبُهُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ لَهَا قُتِلَ زَوْجُكِ فَوَضَعَتْ يَدَهَا عَلَى رَأْسِهَا وَ صَرَخَتْ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص مَا يَعْدِلُ الزَّوْجَ عِنْدَ الْمَرْأَةِ شَيْ‌ءٌ.

‘Your maternal uncle, Hamzah is killed.’ She asked for a happy return to Allah and said, ‘I expect good reward from Allah.’ He (the Messenger of Allah) then told her, ‘Your brother is also killed.’ She asked for a happy return to Allah and said, ‘I expect good reward from Allah.’ He (the Messenger of Allah) then said,

إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَبَارَكَ وَ تَعَالَى غَيُورٌ[4]- يُحِبُّ كُلَّ غَيُورٍ وَ لِغَيْرَتِهِ حَرَّمَ‌ الْفَوَاحِشَ ظَاهِرَهَا وَ بَاطِنَهَا.

“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Allah, most High, is Vigilant (protective of His cause) and He loves every vigilant one and due to His vigilance He has made both apparent and hidden indecency unlawful. ’”

إِذَا أُغِيرَ الرَّجُلُ فِي أَهْلِهِ أَوْ بَعْضِ مَنَاكِحِهِ مِنْ مَمْلُوكِهِ فَلَمْ يَغَرْ وَ لَمْ يُغَيِّرْ بَعَثَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ إِلَيْهِ طَائِراً يُقَالُ لَهُ الْقَفَنْدَرُ[3] حَتَّى يَسْقُطَ عَلَى عَارِضَةِ بَابِهِ‌[4] ثُمَّ يُمْهِلَهُ أَرْبَعِينَ يَوْماً ثُمَّ يَهْتِفَ بِهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ غَيُورٌ يُحِبُّ كُلَّ غَيُورٍ فَإِنْ هُوَ غَارَ وَ غَيَّرَ وَ أَنْكَرَ ذَلِكَ فَأَنْكَرَهُ وَ إِلَّا طَارَ حَتَّى يَس

“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘When a man’s vigilance is shaken in matters of protection for his family and wife or those married to him, like his slave-girl, but does not act vigilantly, Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, sends a bird called al-Qafandar which sits on the upper portion of his door and gives him f

كُنْتُ‌ عِنْدَ عَلِيِّ بْنِ الْحُسَيْنِ ع فَجَاءَهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ لَهُ يَا أَبَا مُحَمَّدٍ إِنِّي مُبْتَلًى بِالنِّسَاءِ فَأَزْنِي يَوْماً وَ أَصُومُ يَوْماً فَيَكُونُ ذَا كَفَّارَةً لِذَا فَقَالَ لَهُ عَلِيُّ بْنُ الْحُسَيْنِ ع إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ شَيْ‌ءٌ أَحَبَّ إِلَى اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ مِنْ أَنْ يُطَاعَ وَ لَا يُعْصَى فَلَا تَزْنِ وَ لَا تَصُمْ فَاجْتَذَبَهُ أَبُو جَعْفَرٍ ع إِلَيْهِ فَأَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ فَقَالَ يَا

“Once I was with Ali ibn al-Husayn (a.s.), when a man came and said, ‘O abu Muhammad, I am addicted to women. One day I commit fornication and the other day I fast; if this can become expiation for the sin.’ Ali ibn al-Husayn (a.s.), said, ‘There is not anything more beloved to Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, than

كُنْتُ عِنْدَ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع وَ عِنْدَهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ لَهُ جُعِلْتُ فِدَاكَ إِنِّي أُحِبُّ الصِّبْيَانَ فَقَالَ لَهُ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع فَتَصْنَعُ مَا ذَا قَالَ أَحْمِلُهُمْ عَلَى ظَهْرِي فَوَضَعَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَدَهُ عَلَى جَبْهَتِهِ وَ وَلَّى وَجْهَهُ عَنْهُ فَبَكَى الرَّجُلُ فَنَظَرَ إِلَيْهِ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع كَأَنَّهُ رَحِمَهُ فَقَالَ إِذَا أَتَيْتَ بَلَدَكَ فَاشْتَرِ جَزُوراً سَمِينا

“Once, when, I was with abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), a man also was there. He said, ‘I pray to Allah to keep my soul in service for your cause, I love children.’ He (the Imam) asked, ‘Why is it?’ He said, ‘I carry them on my back.’ Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), placed his hand on his forehead and turned his face away from him. The