قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع الرَّجُلُ يَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى أَبِيهِ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَدْ كُنْتُ أَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى أَبِي وَ لَيْسَتْ أُمِّي عِنْدَهُ إِنَّمَا هِيَ امْرَأَةُ أَبِي تُوُفِّيَتْ أُمِّي وَ أَنَا غُلَامٌ وَ قَدْ يَكُونُ مِنْ خَلْوَتِهِمَا مَا لَا أُحِبُّ أَنْ أَفْجَأَهُمَا عَلَيْهِ وَ لَا يُحِبَّانِ ذَلِكَ مِنِّي السَّلَامُ أَصْوَبُ وَ أَحْسَنُ[1].
- خَرَجَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص يُرِيدُ فَاطِمَةَ ع وَ أَنَا مَعَهُ فَلَمَّا انْتَهَيْتُ إِلَى الْبَابِ وَضَعَ يَدَهُ عَلَيْهِ فَدَفَعَهُ[2] ثُمَّ قَالَ السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ فَقَالَتْ فَاطِمَةُ عَلَيْكَ السَّلَامُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ أَدْخُلُ قَالَتْ ادْخُلْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ أَدْخُلُ أَنَا وَ مَنْ مَعِي فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَيْسَ عَلَيَّ قِنَاعٌ فَقَالَ يَا فَاطِمَةُ خُذِي فَضْلَ مِلْحَفَتِكِ فَ
A number of our companions, from Ahmad Bin Abu Abdullah, from Ismail Bin Mihran, from Ubeyd Bin Muawiya Bin Shurayh, from Sayf Bin Amerya, from Amro Bin Shimr, from Jabir, (It has been narrated) from Abu Ja’far asws , from Jabir Bin Abdullah Al-Ansary who said, ‘Rasool-Allah saww went out to visit Fatima asws and I was
لِيَسْتَأْذِنِ الَّذِينَ مَلَكَتْ أَيْمانُكُمْ وَ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا الْحُلُمَ مِنْكُمْ ثَلاثَ مَرَّاتٍ كَمَا أَمَرَكُمُ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَ[2] وَ مَنْ بَلَغَ الْحُلُمَ فَلَا يَلِجُ عَلَى أُمِّهِ وَ لَا عَلَى أُخْتِهِ وَ لَا عَلَى خَالَتِهِ وَ لَا عَلَى سِوَى ذَلِكَ إِلَّا بِإِذْنٍ فَلَا تَأْذَنُوا حَتَّى يُسَلِّمَ وَ السَّلَامُ طَاعَةٌ لِلَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ قَالَ وَ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع لِيَسْ
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Your slaves and those of you who have not yet gained feeling of carnal desires must ask for your permission three times as Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, has commanded. Those who have gained feeling of carnal desire must not enter the place of his mother, sister and maternal aun
هِيَ خَاصَّةٌ فِي الرِّجَالِ دُونَ النِّسَاءِ قُلْتُ فَالنِّسَاءُ يَسْتَأْذِنَّ فِي هَذِهِ الثَّلَاثِ سَاعَاتٍ قَالَ لَا وَ لَكِنْ يَدْخُلْنَ وَ يَخْرُجْنَ- وَ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا الْحُلُمَ مِنْكُمْ قَالَ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ[1] قَالَ عَلَيْكُمُ اسْتِئْذَانٌ كَاسْتِئْذَانِ مَنْ قَدْ بَلَغَ فِي هَذِهِ الثَّلَاثِ سَاعَاتٍ.
“This is about the words of Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, ‘. . . those whom your right hands possess’ (24:58) abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘It is just for men and not for women.’ I then asked, ‘Is it then necessary for women to ask permission in such hours?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘No, they can come and go.’ Ab
لِيَسْتَأْذِنْكُمُ الَّذِينَ مَلَكَتْ أَيْمانُكُمْ وَ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا الْحُلُمَ مِنْكُمْ ثَلاثَ مَرَّاتٍ مِنْ قَبْلِ صَلاةِ الْفَجْرِ وَ حِينَ تَضَعُونَ ثِيابَكُمْ مِنَ الظَّهِيرَةِ وَ مِنْ بَعْدِ صَلاةِ الْعِشاءِ ثَلاثُ عَوْراتٍ لَكُمْ[2] لَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَ لا عَلَيْهِمْ جُناحٌ بَعْدَهُنَّ طَوَّافُونَ عَلَيْكُمْ وَ مَنْ بَلَغَ الْحُلُمَ مِنْكُمْ فَلَا يَلِجُ عَلَى أُمِّهِ وَ لَا عَلَى أُخْتِهِ وَ لَا ع
“Abu Ja‘far (a.s.), has said, ‘Those whom your right hands possess and who have not gained feeling of carnal desires must ask permission from you three times: before the morning Salat (prayer), at noontime when you undress and after Salat (prayer) of al-‘Isha’ which are three times of privacy and thereafter it is not u
فِي قَوْلِ اللَّهِ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ- يا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لِيَسْتَأْذِنْكُمُ الَّذِينَ مَلَكَتْ أَيْمانُكُمْ وَ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا الْحُلُمَ مِنْكُمْ ثَلاثَ مَرَّاتٍ قِيلَ مَنْ هُمْ فَقَالَ هُمُ الْمَمْلُوكُونَ مِنَ الرِّجَالِ وَ النِّسَاءِ[4] وَ الصِّبْيَانُ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يَبْلُغُوا يَسْتَأْذِنُونَ عَلَيْكُمْ عِنْدَ هَذِهِ الثَّلَاثِ الْعَوْرَاتِ مِنْ بَعْدِ صَلَاةِ الْعِشَاءِ وَ هِيَ الْعَتَمَةُ وَ
“About the words of Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, ‘O believers, those whom your right hands possess and those who have not yet gained feeling of carnal desire must ask permission from you three times’, (24:58) abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.); and in answer to a question about who such people are has said, ‘They are male a
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع- عَنِ الْمَمْلُوكِ يَرَى شَعْرَ مَوْلَاتِهِ قَالَ لَا بَأْسَ.
‘It is not unlawful.’”
كُنَّا عِنْدَ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع نَحْواً مِنْ ثَلَاثِينَ رَجُلًا إِذْ دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ أَبِي فَرَحَّبَ بِهِ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع وَ أَجْلَسَهُ إِلَى جَنْبِهِ فَأَقْبَلَ عَلَيْهِ طَوِيلًا ثُمَّ قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع إِنَّ لِأَبِي مُعَاوِيَةَ حَاجَةً فَلَوْ خَفَّفْتُمْ فَقُمْنَا جَمِيعاً فَقَالَ لِي أَبِي ارْجِعْ يَا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَرَجَعْتُ فَقَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع هَذَا ابْنُكَ قَالَ نَعَمْ وَ هُوَ يَ
“Once we, about thirty people, were with abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), when my father came and abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), welcomed him, gave him a place just next to himself and turned to him (for speaking) for a long time. Then abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), said, ‘Abu Mu‘awiyah needs privacy, if you please provide us relief.’ We all go
قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع الْمَمْلُوكُ يَرَى شَعْرَ مَوْلَاتِهِ وَ سَاقَهَا قَالَ لَا بَأْسَ.
‘It is not unlawful.’”
لَا يَحِلُّ لِلْمَرْأَةِ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ عَبْدُهَا إِلَى شَيْءٍ مِنْ جَسَدِهَا إِلَّا إِلَى شَعْرِهَا غَيْرَ مُتَعَمِّدٍ لِذَلِكَ[2] وَ فِي رِوَايَةٍ أُخْرَى لَا بَأْسَ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَى شَعْرِهَا إِذَا كَانَ مَأْمُوناً.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘It is not lawful for a slave to look at any part of the body of his mistress except her hairs unintentionally.’” In another Hadith it is said that it is not unlawful to look at her hairs if it is safe (from sinful feelings).
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع- عَنْ أُمِّ الْوَلَدِ هَلْ يَصْلُحُ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا خَصِيُّ مَوْلَاهَا وَ هِيَ تَغْتَسِلُ قَالَ لَا يَحِلُّ ذَلِكَ[1].
“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about the case of a castrated slave; if he can look at his mistress when she takes a bath. He (the Imam) said, ‘No, it is not lawful.
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ مُوسَى ع قُلْتُ يَكُونُ لِلرَّجُلِ الْخَصِيُّ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى نِسَائِهِ فَيُنَاوِلُهُنَّ الْوَضُوءَ فَيَرَى شُعُورَهُنَّ قَالَ لَا[2].
“I once asked abu al-Hassan (a.s.), about the case of a man who has a castrated slave; if he can go to his women and provide them water for wudu and look at their hairs. He (the Imam) said, ‘No, he can do so.”’
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا الْحَسَنِ الرِّضَا ع- عَنْ قِنَاعِ الْحَرَائِرِ مِنَ الْخِصْيَانِ فَقَالَ كَانُوا يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَى بَنَاتِ أَبِي الْحَسَنِ ع وَ لَا يَتَقَنَّعْنَ قُلْتُ فَكَانُوا أَحْرَاراً قَالَ لَا قُلْتُ فَالْأَحْرَارُ يُتَقَنَّعُ مِنْهُمْ قَالَ لَا[3].
‘They would go in the presence of the daughters of abu al-Hassan (a.s.), and they would not use veils.’ I then asked if they were free. He (the Imam) said, ‘No, they were not free.’ I then asked, ‘Is veil necessary the free ones before them (castrated) ones?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘No, it is not so.’”
لَا يَصْلُحُ لِلْجَارِيَةِ إِذَا حَاضَتْ إِلَّا أَنْ تَخْتَمِرَ إِلَّا أَنْ لَا تَجِدَهُ[4].
‘It is not proper for a girl who experiences Hayd (menses) not to use a veil except if she does not experience it.’”
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا إِبْرَاهِيمَ ع عَنِ الْجَارِيَةِ الَّتِي لَمْ تُدْرِكْ مَتَى يَنْبَغِي لَهَا أَنْ تُغَطِّيَ رَأْسَهَا مِمَّنْ لَيْسَ بَيْنَهَا وَ بَيْنَهُ مَحْرَمٌ وَ مَتَى يَجِبُ عَلَيْهَا أَنْ تُقَنِّعَ رَأْسَهَا لِلصَّلَاةِ قَالَ لَا تُغَطِّي رَأْسَهَا حَتَّى تَحْرُمَ عَلَيْهَا الصَّلَاةُ[1].
‘It is not necessary for her to cover her head until Salat (prayer) becomes obligatory on her.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنْ جُوَيْرِيَةٍ[2] لَيْسَ بَيْنِي وَ بَيْنَهَا مَحْرَمٌ تَغْشَانِي فَأَحْمِلُهَا فَأُقَبِّلُهَا فَقَالَ إِذَا أَتَى عَلَيْهَا سِتُّ سِنِينَ فَلَا تَضَعْهَا عَلَى حَجْرِكَ[3].
“I once asked him (the Imam) (a.s.), about a girl who is not a relative to me who holds me and I carry her and kiss her. He (the Imam) said, ‘When she becomes six years old then you must not place her in your lap.’”
قَالَ إِذَا بَلَغَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ الْحُرَّةُ سِتَّ سِنِينَ فَلَا يَنْبَغِي لَكَ أَنْ تُقَبِّلَهَا.
‘When a free girl becomes six years old then it is not proper for you to kiss her.’”
أَنَّ بَعْضَ بَنِي هَاشِمٍ دَعَاهُ مَعَ جَمَاعَةٍ مِنْ أَهْلِهِ فَأَتَى بِصَبِيَّةٍ لَهُ فَأَدْنَاهَا أَهْلُ الْمَجْلِسِ جَمِيعاً إِلَيْهِمْ فَلَمَّا دَنَتْ مِنْهُ سَأَلَ عَنْ سِنِّهَا فَقِيلَ خَمْسٌ فَنَحَّاهَا عَنْهُ[4]
“A certain person of banu Hashim once invited abu al-Hassan, al-Rida’ (a.s.), along with a group of his people and a girl was brought in the gathering. People called her one by one and when she was brought near him (the Imam) he asked, ‘How old is she ? 5 It was said that she was five years old. He (the Imam) then aske
سُئِلَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع- عَنِ الصَّبِيِّ يَحْجُمُ الْمَرْأَةَ قَالَ إِنْ كَانَ يُحْسِنُ يَصِفُ فَلَا.
“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin was asked if a child can perform cupping on a woman. ’Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), said, ‘If he is good in cupping and describing then it is not unlawful.’”
اسْتَأْذَنَ ابْنُ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ص وَ عِنْدَهُ عَائِشَةُ وَ حَفْصَةُ فَقَالَ لَهُمَا قُومَا فَادْخُلَا الْبَيْتَ فَقَالَتَا إِنَّهُ أَعْمَى فَقَالَ إِنْ لَمْ يَرَكُمَا فَإِنَّكُمَا تَرَيَانِهِ[1].
He (the Messenger of Allah) asked them to go to the room and they said, ‘He is blind.’ He (the Messenger of Allah) said, ‘If he cannot see you, you two can see him.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْمَرْأَةِ الْمُسْلِمَةِ يُصِيبُهَا الْبَلَاءُ فِي جَسَدِهَا إِمَّا كَسْرٌ أَوْ جِرَاحٌ فِي مَكَانٍ لَا يَصْلُحُ النَّظَرُ إِلَيْهِ وَ يَكُونُ الرِّجَالُ أَرْفَقَ بِعِلَاجِهِ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ أَ يَصْلُحُ لَهُ أَنْ يَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا قَالَ إِذَا اضْطُرَّتْ إِلَيْهِ فَيُعَالِجُهَا إِنْ شَاءَتْ.
“I once asked him (the Imam) (a.s.), about the case of a Muslim woman who is afflicted with a misfortune in her body, like a broken part or wound in a place to which looking is not proper and men are more gentle to treat it than women: if he can look at it. He (the Imam) said, ‘In an emergency he can treat her if she w
قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع لَا تَبْدَءُوا النِّسَاءَ بِالسَّلَامِ وَ لَا تَدْعُوهُنَّ إِلَى الطَّعَامِ فَإِنَّ النَّبِيَّ ص قَالَ النِّسَاءُ عَيٌّ وَ عَوْرَةٌ فَاسْتُرُوا عِيَّهُنَّ بِالسُّكُوتِ وَ اسْتُرُوا عَوْرَاتِهِنَّ بِالْبُيُوتِ[1].
“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin has said, ’You must not initiate Salam (the phrase of offering greeting of peace) to women and you must not invite them for food; the Holy Prophet (saww) has said, “Women are tiredness (weakness in communication) and a matter of private nature thus, you must cove
لَا تُسَلِّمْ عَلَى الْمَرْأَةِ[2].
“Abu ’Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘You (men) must not offer Salam (the phrase of offering greeting of peace) to a woman.’”
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص يُسَلِّمُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَ يَرْدُدْنَ عَلَيْهِ وَ كَانَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع يُسَلِّمُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَ كَانَ يَكْرَهُ أَنْ يُسَلِّمَ عَلَى الشَّابَّةِ مِنْهُنَّ وَ يَقُولُ أَتَخَوَّفُ أَنْ يُعْجِبَنِي صَوْتُهَا فَيَدْخُلَ عَلَيَّ أَكْثَرُ مِمَّا طَلَبْتُ مِنَ الْأَجْرِ[3].
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that the Messenger of Allah (saww) would offer Salam (the phrase of offering greeting of peace) to women and they would respond in return and ’Amir al- Mu’minin would offer Salam (the phrase of offering greeting of peace) to women but disliked to offer Salam (the phrase of offering gree
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص النِّسَاءُ عَيٌّ وَ عَوْرَةٌ فَاسْتُرُوا الْعَوْرَاتِ بِالْبُيُوتِ وَ اسْتُرُوا الْعِيَّ بِالسُّكُوتِ.
‘Women are tiredness (weakness in communication) and a matter of private nature thus, you must cover the privacy of their nature with homes and their tiredness with quietness.’”
إِنَّ اللَّهَ تَبَارَكَ وَ تَعَالَى غَيُورٌ[4]- يُحِبُّ كُلَّ غَيُورٍ وَ لِغَيْرَتِهِ حَرَّمَ الْفَوَاحِشَ ظَاهِرَهَا وَ بَاطِنَهَا.
“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Allah, most High, is Vigilant (protective of His cause) and He loves every vigilant one and due to His vigilance He has made both apparent and hidden indecency unlawful. ’”
سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَقُولُ إِذَا لَمْ يَغَرِ الرَّجُلُ فَهُوَ مَنْكُوسُ الْقَلْبِ[2].
“I once heard abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), saying, ‘One who is not vigilant and protective, his heart is upside down.’”
إِذَا أُغِيرَ الرَّجُلُ فِي أَهْلِهِ أَوْ بَعْضِ مَنَاكِحِهِ مِنْ مَمْلُوكِهِ فَلَمْ يَغَرْ وَ لَمْ يُغَيِّرْ بَعَثَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَ جَلَّ إِلَيْهِ طَائِراً يُقَالُ لَهُ الْقَفَنْدَرُ[3] حَتَّى يَسْقُطَ عَلَى عَارِضَةِ بَابِهِ[4] ثُمَّ يُمْهِلَهُ أَرْبَعِينَ يَوْماً ثُمَّ يَهْتِفَ بِهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ غَيُورٌ يُحِبُّ كُلَّ غَيُورٍ فَإِنْ هُوَ غَارَ وَ غَيَّرَ وَ أَنْكَرَ ذَلِكَ فَأَنْكَرَهُ وَ إِلَّا طَارَ حَتَّى يَس
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘When a man’s vigilance is shaken in matters of protection for his family and wife or those married to him, like his slave-girl, but does not act vigilantly, Allah, most Majestic, most Glorious, sends a bird called al-Qafandar which sits on the upper portion of his door and gives him f
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ص كَانَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ ع غَيُوراً وَ أَنَا أَغْيَرُ مِنْهُ وَ جَدَعَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَ مَنْ لَا يَغَارُ مِنَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ وَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ[5].
4. Ibn Mahbub has narrated from more than one person who has said the following: “Abu ‘Abd Allah, ‘Alayhi al-Salam, has said that the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, has said, ‘Ibrahim, ‘Alayhi al-Salam was vigilant and protective and I
سَمِعْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع يَقُولُ إِنَّ شَيْطَاناً يُقَالُ لَهُ الْقَفَنْدَرُ إِذَا ضُرِبَ فِي مَنْزِلِ الرَّجُلِ أَرْبَعِينَ صَبَاحاً بِالْبَرْبَطِ وَ دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ الرِّجَالُ وَضَعَ ذَلِكَ الشَّيْطَانُ كُلَّ عُضْوٍ مِنْهُ عَلَى مِثْلِهِ مِنْ صَاحِبِ الْبَيْتِ ثُمَّ نَفَخَ فِيهِ نَفْخَةً فَلَا يَغَارُ بَعْدَ هَذَا حَتَّى تُؤْتَى نِسَاؤُهُ فَلَا يَغَارُ.
‘When a Satan called al-Qafandar, plays the lute in a man’s home and men come in his house, that Satan places every part of his body on the similar one of that man, owner of the house, then he blows in him a blow and thereafter that man does not exercise any vigilance or protective measures even if people go to his wom
قَالَ أَمِيرُ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع يَا أَهْلَ الْعِرَاقِ نُبِّئْتُ أَنَّ نِسَاءَكُمْ يُدَافِعْنَ الرِّجَالَ فِي الطَّرِيقِ أَ مَا تَسْتَحْيُونَ. وَ - فِي حَدِيثٍ آخَرَ أَنَّ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ع قَالَ: أَ مَا تَسْتَحْيُونَ وَ لَا تَغَارُونَ نِسَاءَكُمْ يَخْرُجْنَ إِلَى الْأَسْوَاقِ وَ يُزَاحِمْنَ الْعُلُوجَ.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin once said, ‘O people of Iraq I am informed that your women push men on the road, are you not ashamed?’ In another Hadith it is said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin (a.s.), said, ‘Are you not ashamed of not exercising vigilance when your women go out in the market and becom
ثَلَاثَةٌ لا يُكَلِّمُهُمُ اللَّهُ يَوْمَ الْقِيامَةِ وَ لا يُزَكِّيهِمْ وَ لَهُمْ عَذابٌ أَلِيمٌ الشَّيْخُ الزَّانِي وَ الدَّيُّوثُ وَ الْمَرْأَةُ تُوطِئُ فِرَاشَ زَوْجِهَا.
“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘On the Day of Judgment Allah will not speak to three kinds of people and will not cleanse them and they suffer a painful suffering. One is an old fornicating man, a pimp and a woman who allows men to go in the bed of her husband with her.’”
حُرِّمَتِ الْجَنَّةُ عَلَى الدَّيُّوثِ.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Paradise is made unlawful for a pimp.”’
إِنَّ أَميِرَ الْمُؤْمنِيِنَ ع كَتَبَ فِي رِسَالَتِهِ إِلَى الْحَسَنِ ع إِيَّاكَ وَ التَّغَايُرَ فِي غَيْرِ مَوْضِعِ الْغَيْرَةِ فَإِنَّ ذَلِكَ يَدْعُو الصَّحِيحَةَ مِنْهُنَّ إِلَى السَّقَمِ وَ لَكِنْ أَحْكِمْ أَمْرَهُنَّ فَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ عَيْباً فَعَجِّلِ النَّكِيرَ عَلَى الصَّغِيرِ وَ الْكَبِيرِ فَإِنْ تَعَيَّنْتَ مِنْهُنَّ الرَّيْبَ فَيُعَظَّمُ الذَّنْبُ وَ يُهَوَّنُ الْعَتْبُ[1].
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said that ’Amir al-Mu’minin in a letter to al-Hassan (a.s.), has said, ‘You must be on your guard against vigilance and protectionism in an improper instance because it can lead the ones (of women) with perfect manners into one of ill-behaving one, however, you must fortify their (women’s) c
لَا غَيْرَةَ فِي الْحَلَالِ بَعْدَ قَوْلِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ص لَا تُحْدِثَا شَيْئاً حَتَّى أَرْجِعَ إِلَيْكُمَا[1] فَلَمَّا أَتَاهُمَا أَدْخَلَ رِجْلَيْهِ بَيْنَهُمَا فِي الْفِرَاشِ.
“Abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Vigilance and protectionism is not needed against lawful matters, in the light of the words of the Messenger of Allah, O Allah, grant compensation to Muhammad and his family worthy of their services to Your cause, “The two of you (Ali and Fatimah, Alayhim al-Salam ,) you must not do
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع- عَنْ خُرُوجِ النِّسَاءِ فِي الْعِيدَيْنِ فَقَالَ لَا إِلَّا عَجُوزٌ عَلَيْهَا مَنْقَلَاهَا يَعْنِي الْخُفَّيْنِ[2].
“This is concerning my question before abu ‘ Abd Allah (a.s.), about women’s going out for the two ‘Id. He (the Imam) said, ‘No, except old women wearing their pairs of shoes.’” (Consult Fatwah about this hadith)
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع- عَنْ خُرُوجِ النِّسَاءِ فِي الْعِيدَيْنِ وَ الْجُمُعَةِ فَقَالَ لَا إِلَّا امْرَأَةٌ مُسِنَّةٌ.
He (the Imam) said, ‘No, except old women.’” (Consult Fatwah about this hadith)
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع مَا لِصَاحِبِ الْمَرْأَةِ الْحَائِضِ مِنْهَا فَقَالَ كُلُّ شَيْءٍ مَا عَدَا الْقُبُلَ بِعَيْنِهِ[3].
‘He can enjoy everything except her front organ exactly.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْحَائِضِ مَا يَحِلُّ لِزَوْجِهَا مِنْهَا قَالَ مَا دُونَ الْفَرْجِ[1].
“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about what is permissible for a man to enjoy with his wife during her experiencing Hayd (menses). He (the Imam) said, ‘Everything except her vulva.’”
قُلْتُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع مَا يَحِلُّ لِلرَّجُلِ مِنِ امْرَأَتِهِ وَ هِيَ حَائِضٌ قَالَ مَا دُونَ الْفَرْجِ.
‘Everything except her vulva.’”
سَأَلْتُ أَبَا عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع مَا يَحِلُّ لِلرَّجُلِ مِنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَ هِيَ حَائِضٌ قَالَ كُلُّ شَيْءٍ غَيْرَ الْفَرْجِ قَالَ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنَّمَا الْمَرْأَةُ لُعْبَةُ الرَّجُلِ.
“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about what is permissible for a man to enjoy with his wife during her experiencing Hayd (menses). He (the Imam) said, ‘Everything except her vulva.’ He (the Imam) then said, ‘A Woman is just like a doll for man.’”
قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ع تَرَى هَؤُلَاءِ الْمُشَوَّهِينَ[3] خَلْقُهُمْ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ هَؤُلَاءِ الَّذِينَ آبَاؤُهُمْ يَأْتُونَ نِسَاءَهُمْ فِي الطَّمْثِ.
“Abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), asked, ‘Do you see those who are born with deformities?’ I replied, ‘Yes, I see them.’ He (the Imam) said, ‘It is because their fathers go to bed with their wives during their experiencing Hayd (menses).”’
إِذَا أَصَابَ زَوْجَهَا شَبَقٌ فَلْيَأْمُرْهَا فَلْتَغْتَسِلْ فَرْجَهَا ثُمَّ يَمَسُّهَا إِنْ شَاءَ قَبْلَ أَنْ تَغْتَسِلَ.
“About the case of a woman whose blood discharge stops in the end of Hayd (menses), he (the Imam) said, ‘If her husband has an intense desire he must instruct her to wash her vulva, then he can touch it before Ghusl (bath) if he wants.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْحَائِضِ تَرَى الطُّهْرَ وَ يَقَعُ بِهَا زَوْجُهَا قَالَ لَا بَأْسَ وَ الْغُسْلُ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ.
“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about the case of a woman experiencing Hayd (menses) who finds herself clean and her husband goes to bed with her. He (the Imam) said, ‘It is not unlawful but taking Ghusl (bath) is more likeable to me.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنْ إِتْيَانِ النِّسَاءِ فِي أَعْجَازِهِنَّ فَقَالَ هِيَ لُعْبَتُكَ لَا تُؤْذِهَا.
“This is concerning my question before abu ‘Abdillah (a.s.), about penetrating women in their rear. He (the Imam) said, ‘She is a [means of] pleasure for you, so don't abuse her.’”
سَمِعْتُ صَفْوَانَ بْنَ يَحْيَى يَقُولُ قُلْتُ لِلرِّضَا ع إِنَّ رَجُلًا مِنْ مَوَالِيكَ أَمَرَنِي أَنْ أَسْأَلَكَ عَنْ مَسْأَلَةٍ هَابَكَ وَ اسْتَحْيَا مِنْكَ أَنْ يَسْأَلَكَ قَالَ وَ مَا هِيَ قُلْتُ الرَّجُلُ يَأْتِي امْرَأَتَهُ فِي دُبُرِهَا قَالَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ قَالَ قُلْتُ لَهُ فَأَنْتَ تَفْعَلُ قَالَ إِنَّا لَا نَفْعَلُ ذَلِكَ.
‘It is up to him.’ I then asked, ‘Do you do so?’ He (the Imam) said, ‘No, we do not do so.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الْخَضْخَضَةِ- فَقَالَ هِيَ مِنَ الْفَوَاحِشِ وَ نِكَاحُ الْأَمَةِ خَيْرٌ مِنْهُ.
‘It is of the sinful acts. Going to bed with a slave-girl is better than this.’”
سَأَلْتُهُ عَنِ الدَّلْكِ قَالَ نَاكِحُ نَفْسِهِ لَا شَيْءَ عَلَيْهِ[3].
“I once asked abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), about one’s playing to cause his semen to discharge. He (the Imam) said, ‘He is like going to bed with himself and there is no punishment on him (but it is like fornication as regards to sinfulness).”’
كُلُّ مَا أَنْزَلَ بِهِ الرَّجُلُ مَاءَهُ فِي هَذَا وَ شِبْهِهِ فَهُوَ زِنًى.
“About the case of a man who engages in sexual intercourse with animals or causes his semen to discharge, abu ‘Abd Allah (a.s.), has said, ‘Whenever a man causes his semen to discharge in this or that way it is fornication.’”
أَنَّهُ كَتَبَ إِلَيْهِ رَجُلٌ يَكُونُ مَعَ الْمَرْأَةِ لَا يُبَاشِرُهَا إِلَّا مِنْ وَرَاءِ ثِيَابِهَا [وَ ثِيَابِهِ] فَيُحَرِّكُ حَتَّى يُنْزِلَ مَاءَ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِ وَ هَلْ يَبْلُغُ بِهِ حَدَّ الْخَضْخَضَةِ فَوَقَّعَ فِي الْكِتَابِ بِذَلِكَ بَالِغُ أَمْرِهِ[1]
“A man once wrote to abu al-Hassan (a.s.), and asked about a man who is with a woman and touches her from behind her clothes and his clothes and moves until he discharges semen; if it is like masturbation. He (the Imam) signed the answer that said, ‘In it he has reached his goal (of a sinful act).”’